MemberSo I’m curious as to the reasons that all of our significant others have given us as to why we’re waiting. I mean this as a lighthearted question and thought it would be fun. I do know that there are a lot of different reasons out there and I tried to think of most of them in the poll.
And yes, you can vote more than once!
MemberFor me, I would say that mainly the guy is slow! lol He’s an engineer and is very slow and deliberate. But when he makes up his mind he does stick with it!
MemberWe’ve chosen the ring and we’re on the same page, but we just bought a house haha, so I’m pretty sure I am waiting because if finances.
MemberHis sister (who has been with her boyfriend for about a year, while we have been together for 5 years) just got engaged in June. He doesn’t want to “steal her thunder” by proposing. I know it’s really selfish of me to be upset by this but I have been seriously waiting for the ring since 2008 and I just want to be engaged already!!
MemberPretty sure he has the ring just waiting on him to give me the damn thing! HAHA! I think the only reason guys like to torture us with the proposal is because this is the last thing they have control over…lol! I mean after they propose we take off planning the wedding and all. It’s really funny if you think about it.
MemberMy guy is SLOOOOWWWWW. Seriously, everything in his life is done in slow motion. Took him 5 years instead of 4 to graduate with his bachelors, takes him 2 hours to get ready to leave the house, waits until the last minute to pay his bills… you get my point. We’ve been dating for 5 years and he just got around to buying the ring. (So I checked off both categories 🙂 )
Seriously. SO. SLOW.
MemberI’d have to say our reason is I will be moving back to my home state to finish school in Jan. although I did give him the option to get married next year and I would move back to finish school. Since then, we haven’t really talked about it.
MemberI said because “the guy is slow.” But really I shouldn’t complain. We’ve only been dating 7 1/2 months. Although it took him year and a half to get up the courage to ask me out…. so I could have a looooong time of waiting for that ring!
MemberI have NO IDEA what my b/f is waiting for. Last September he lost his job, which was a huge set back. But he has since found a new job and has been there for about 8.5 months now. LETS GO!!!!!!
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MemberFinances, his belief that he needs to buy me a huge ring, his desire to be graduated, well-paid, and this stupid belief that he has to spend two month’s worth of a high-paying salary on my ring. Also, he totally doesn’t think about it. He’s in school and it’s all he thinks about. Wedding, marriage, babies, they just don’t cross his mind. He can only do one thing at a time. Maybe I should vote for “SLOW” too?!
MemberMy Fiance had the ring, but was putting together a really complex proposal (he coded an iphone app that took me on a scavenger hunt through all of our “firsts” in our city). It took a ton of sneaky planning, so it took a couple of months for him to pull together. I had an AHA! moment and had picked out the ring, so that came first, and the planning second 😉
MemberI answered “I don’t know.” My guy has been ring shopping, we’re both ready to be engaged, yet I’m still waiting.
Tick m’fn tock.
MemberIt seems like a lot of Bees are waiting due to finances. I think that’s part of it for me, but a small part.
@artichokey: yup, my guy wants to be more secure in his job and finances. I told him in this economy, no one is 100% secure in their job or finances! He will also want to buy me more ring than I really need.
My guy just hadn’t been thinking about it seriously until we talked about it. He always thought there was “potential” for marriage between us but the realities of the decision, logistics (asking dad, figuring out what to do with the rommates, etc), and wrapping his mind around starting this next phase in his life…well, these things take some time to process. Hopefully not too much time 🙂 And he didn’t want to feel pressured into making the decision becuase he was afraid I’d leave. Even though I think that’s a valid reason, and why most people propose (you can’t stand the thought of living without the other person), he gave me a reasonable timeframe to figure it out so that’s why I’m waiting.
MemberHe says it’s because he has the right time to propose. We are both debt free and there are no financial problems. Been done with school, 29 and 32, etc. etc. etc.
There SHOULD be no kind of hold up…
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