(Closed) Waiting Board is now Snark Fodder on STFUCouples.com

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 77
2268 posts
Buzzing bee

Eh, whatever. They just have different values, or think they have different values. Everyone gets their kicks in their own way.

I’m sure we’re all jerks every now and then, and as we all know:

Post # 78
69 posts
Worker bee

Let them snark it up.  For me, this is the place where I can come when I’m feeling frustrated, empathize with other waiting bees, and share in the joy of newly engaged bees.  We’re excited, nervous, and pretty darn vulnerable.  As sure as we are that our SOs are waiting for the right moment, we still have a smidge of fear that we will be rejected.

I’m going to pull the age card too.  I’m 33.  I’d like to know that I’m on the same page as someone to whom I give my time, energy and love.  I would love to be 5 years younger and more able to have children, but the reality is that friends in my age group are already having heartbreaking fertility issues.  If wanting my boyfriend of 3 years to make a decision is crazy, fine.  He admittedly strung along his ex-girlfriend.  She waited 7 years for an engagment that was not ever going to happen.  I’d rather be called crazy than sacrifice the ability to have children by waiting years for him to make a decision when he’d already made up his mind that I wasn’t the one for him.

Post # 79
180 posts
Blushing bee

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@LeenieBee:  Exactly.  

If some women don’t respect themselves enough not to want to end up permanent live-in girlfriends with their men stringing them along until he finds something better, rather than being mature and discussing your goals and plans (which for many of us include biological children) then go right ahead.  

There was apparently one poster on that board who admitted she’s with her man for 5+ years and sometimes wished her bf would propose, lol.  So…..sure sweetie, what’s another 5, 10, 15+ years with him if you supposedly are in love.  But when he leaves you and marries his next girlfriend less than a year after your break-up, at least you’ll have the comfort of knowing that you didn’t “annoy” him with all your “demands.” 🙂

Post # 80
227 posts
Helper bee

I wish this thread would go away. I think it makes waiting bees seem desperate when really it is hust a crazy confusing time and this is a nice place to vent so we don’t have to bug our friends, family, and SO all the time. We should not have to defend that… this was a safe haven for a little waiting craziness…. Who cares what they think.

Post # 81
789 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@HeartsandSparkles:  Perhaps you should have read my entire post. I’m encouraging women to empower themselves rather than wait for a man (even one they love) to make determinations about their lives. I have “waited” – until I caught myself and realized my happiness is my responsibility. Then I had a conversation with my SO and told him what I wanted and where I needed the relationship to go if I was going to continue in it. If he’d not been on the same page, I wouldn’t be on this website…but I wouldn’t be miserable either. I would have been enlightened.

Post # 82
1979 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

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@lorie:  Don’t worry, I read it.  You don’t understand waiting, you have no idea what you are talking about, and it is disrespectful to the waiting bees to invalidate their feelings and tell them what to do like it’s easy as pie– but that’s just my opinion.  Have a fantastic life.

Post # 83
9081 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

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@HeartsandSparkles:  Being passive aggressive isn’t really the best way to get your point across.

Post # 84
1019 posts
Bumble bee

I didn’t find it offensive. STFUcouples is supposed to be snarky, and they weren’t singling out this board; there were three other links posted. Besides, I was under the impression that they were only referring to some of the bees who go overboard when waiting.

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