Post # 1
So as the wait for the proposal continues, I find myself not nearly as anxious and anticipatory of it. My focus has already shifted to the wedding and what sort of vibe we want to project at it. Not to mention all of the life talks we’ve had about the MARRIAGE we want. 🙂
Don’t get me wrong, I want the sparkly so I can actually put some of my ideas into motion, but is anyone else at this stage? Where you’re just wanting to start the wheels rolling?
Post # 3
I’m much more looking forward to being his wife than his fiance. I think as soon as he proposes I ‘m going to start calling him my husband and totally skip calling him my fiance lol
Post # 4
@aithinne: yep! The proposal and the ring is up to him. I do not want to fixate on it because I would probably set mysef up for disappointment.
I have long started pinning practical things I would like for my wedidng as well as some of the specifics. I am just waiting on the ring so I do not look like a crazy chick planning a wedding without having a fiance. I am probably that but I do not want anyone IRL to know that.
Post # 5
@aithinne: The ring is ordered. Same here, we have established that we will get engaged this november and picked out a venue, colors, music, food etc. So i’m waiting, but not anxiously. I really want the bling mostly so I can tell people and not do so much private planning. LOL.
Post # 6
@lina010: + this!! and decide on/book the venue, etc haha!
Post # 7
@aithinne: I totally know what you mean! I’m looking forward to getting married to my SO, but lately, I’ve been daydreaming about us starting a family way more.
Post # 8
My bf and I have literally planned everything even though we are not officially engaged! We have the date, venue, decorations, photographer, and tonight we were looking at videographers. We haven’t booked anything (waiting for a ring to make it official), but we’ve slowly bought a lot of decor stuff. I’m excited to be official so I can show other people the projects I’ve been working on without seem weird (I made a brooch bouquet I’m damn proud of!). I sometimes feel like it’s a secret he and I are keeping, which isn’t always how I want to feel.
Post # 9
Oh totally. Sorry to say, but I don’t really care about the proposal *that* much. Sure, I want it to be a good memory, but to me it’s really a means to an end. SO and I have been researching venues, talking about months we might like to get married in, found a few invitations styles we like, looking at decorations etc… and at this point I just want to get engaged so we can talk to others about this more openly and start nailing things down! It’s frustrating to have to shush it up in front of most of our friends and family.
Post # 10
@MadameX: OMG I know right?! I can’t talk about it in front of his family at ALL! We’ve got a date nailed down, and a potential venue, but until the engagement is official I can’t go and see the place and make sure! So frustrating!
I think the worst part is that I consider us engaged, because we are talking about this stuff and planning for the future, but he doesn’t, not until the ring is there. Just do it already so I can let out my control freak!
Post # 11
I am so glad I am not the only one. I know SO has the ring. I know where it is and have tried it on twice. (He knows I have done this) I have flooded Pinterest with serious ideas that I would like to use. We have talks on what we want in our, tentatively, fall wedding. I have a hunch my proposal will come in late September so I expect the nervousness/ excitement then.
Post # 12
@aithinne: Right after we went to look at rings and finally found some that were perfect, I got to be SO ANXIOUS. I thought it meant it was coming soon. That was 6 months ago! I’ve been patrolling weddingbee and pinning on my “Someday” board like crazy. Then one night recently I consciously made the decision to not care so much. We had just cooked dinner together and were having some hilarious conversation when I thought to myself “Now this is what I’m excited for. Just to be able to make this permanent” The proposal is just a thing that has to happen before I start making vendor phone calls (haha!) I’m much more relaxed now and I know I will enjoy the proposal so much more knowing I’m not WAITING so actively.
Some might argue that being on WeddingBee constitutes waiting actively but really, I just like the sense of community here and patrolling the boards is a good time killer on my downtime at work. Everyone is so supportive. I enjoy posting here 🙂
Post # 13
@aithinne: Ugh, isn’t it frustrating!? My SO thinks we are “practically engaged” since we are planning on getting married… but I don’t think we’re engaged until we’re engaged! I’m not even saying I need a ring on my finger, I just need us to be able to move on and get on with our lives. So why not just get engaged officially? This makes no sense to me.