(Closed) Waiting but….not waiting?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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485 posts
Helper bee

I know what you mean. Both SO and I have jobs, but we are not yet where we want to be career-wise. That’s why I want a longer engagement period though.

Post # 4
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1088 posts
Bumble bee

@MissCallieJean:  Oh sister I hear ya!  I’m so far away from being where I want to be professionally it’s not even funny.  A year or so ago, I thought I was much closer, but then life happened and things didn’t exactly go according to plan.  🙁

I would love to be where I feel I should be in my career and at least have a good idea of where I’m headed.  I’m literally in limbo for at least a few months. . .and even knowing my next step probably won’t make us any more ready to get engaged/married. 

SO brought up the idea of a longer engagement (we previously thought we’d get married about a year or so after getting engaged), and given the circumstances, I’m glad he did.  If he did decide to propose sooner rather than later, we’d almost certainly have a long engagement.  So while I’m not actively awaiting a proposal,  I know it will one day happen and therefore still consider myself to be waiting.  🙂

Post # 5
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573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I understand completely! I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years so we always have people asking us when we are going to get engaged. Honestly neither one of us is ready. We both are not where we want to be financially and career wise at this point. I know I want to marry him and we talk about our future, we just don’t feel rushed at this point. We will most likely be moving across the country together next year so maybe it will happen then, maybe not. Either way I am not worried. It isn’t something I even think about too much until people start asking.

Post # 6
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273 posts
Helper bee

absolutely!! me and my boyfriend decided to go back to school to get our Master’s in accounting…i am in school fulltime and studying for my CPA exam. I want to marry him one day, but I can’t imagine focusing on a wedding/marriage until I pass this test!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

@MissCallieJean:  I really can’t see how people find it “selfish” to not be engaged/married when you and your SO are in agreement. 

I don’t think that there’s an “ideal age” to get married because it depends on each individual and what their personal goals and expectations are.  Similarly, just because someone has been together for X amount of time doesn’t necessarily mean it’s time to take the next step.  I think that so much of it has to do with timing.  Just because the time is right for one person or couple to do something doesn’t necessarily mean it’s right for you and your SO. 

The only thing that matters is that you and your SO are HAPPY with the decision you have made for you!  🙂

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