- 5 years ago
Just wanted to add myself to the waiting forum. I’ve been reading the boards for a while now but have only just joined.
I have been with my SO for just over a year. Before him I made the conscious decision to be single (and was so for about five years) because of a previous long term relationship that went very sour – I needed to find myself, to enjoy my independence. Anyway, to make a long story short, my SO came along and blew away any ideas I had about single out of the water. I knew very early on that he was right for me. He’s not perfect but neither am I. He’s perfect for me.
Oddly enough, even though I am a big believer in marriage and commitment, I had reached a point where I was happy to spend my life without either – there are other things that are important. SO changed that too. I really can’t believe I am here posting that I am waiting!
We have had numerous talks about our positions on marriage. SO had always said that he doesn’t think marriage is important (beyond legal implications) and it’s not essential for him. To begin with this upset me because it’s important to me, but he explained that for him he already feels that level of commitment for me, and he is happy to go the whole hog.
Since then, ring viewing started by him pointing out engagement rings in a window and asking what I thought. We have looked in many windows and many stores since then, and have done a lot of research online. It’s taken me ages to get to a point where I could figure out the type of ring I wanted. I’ve been really googly eyed at yellow sapphires and diamonds but SO hates yellow. We both, however, love blue, so it looks like sapphire may be the way forward, preferably with a halo – we are thinking maybe diamond or more realisitcally either moissanite or Amora Gem centre stone, and engraving along the band. I have had a preliminary appointment with a custom jeweller we both really like and respect the work of (and my SO knew I was going) to try and establish some of my preferences.
So now I just wait. I don’t think it will be years away, but I am not sure when it will happen. I am in no rush, but I would dearly love to take the next step with him. SO EXCITED!