(Closed) Waiting causing me a lot of stress.

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

maybe he hasn’t asked yet because you’re always expecting it! πŸ˜‰ Try and forget he has the ring and let yourself be surprised when it happens. Relax and stop thinking about it all the time and when you least expect it, he’ll do it!

Post # 4
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12249 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

He should never have told you he has the ring! I don’t blame you for expectig it at every special occasion! He set both of you up for this mess.

There’s no “not thinking about” something you want THAT badly!

That’s like putting a chocolate cake in front of me and saying “You can have this when I say so. Maybe soon? No! Not now! No! Not now, either! WHY DO YOU WANT THIS DELICIOUS CAKE SO BADLY YOU SHOULD JUST ENJOY MY COMPANY!”

I’m sorry but I CAN’T EVEN FOCUS ON YOUR COMPANY BECAUSE I WANT THAT CAKE SO BADLY!

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

Yeah… you need to just try to focus on something else. The mind is a powerful tool. One year when I was trying to get over a breakup I gave up thinking about my ex for Lent. Sounds silly but it worked. I stopped talking about him and any time he popped to mind I just focused really hard on ANYTHING else. I sang happy songs out loud if I was alone. I talked about anything else when I was with people. 

My recommendation would be to join the Shut It Up Pact, stop thinking about the ring and give him some space to surprise you! 

Post # 6
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613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I love the gif!

@RedPanda24:  CONGRATS!!!! Lol I saw your post on SUIP and wanted to see if you had your engagement story up πŸ™‚

 

Post # 8
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556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@RedPanda24:  Why did he tell you he has the ring? That is so cruel… πŸ™

I would be mad, as you are, but I can see his point too, but honestly is his fault, if he didn’t want you to be anxious, you should never know of the ring.

Try to calm down, its easier said then done, I know, but relax, it would be must must worse if you   didn’t know if he ever was going to propose, at least you know it’s in a near future?

:hug:

Post # 9
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231 posts
Helper bee

@RedPanda24:  I truly LOL at the gif file. But as far as not going crazy, it’s hard to keep these things off of our minds! So don’t try to fight it! Just be happy enjoying all that you share together at the moment. For all you know, you can get engaged tomorrow! So take the time to enjoy where you are in your relationship, because before you know it, everything will be flipped upside down once once you get engaged and start planning for a wedding. Savor every moment of your dating life — I imagine that one day, all of us waiting bees will look back on our lives before engagement and wish we enjoyed it for what it was rather than wishing it to be something else. Ya know? :hugs:

 

Post # 12
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613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think they are awesome stories πŸ™‚ nothing against big, elaborate proposals but I like the sweet, simple ones

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