(Closed) Waiting chat part 4!

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 32
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Helper bee

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@shaka:  yep!!! It was even worse earlier in the relationship. There’s nothing out there that doesn’t say forever or rest of our lives or future. Until you have a stronly established relationship that can be soooo awkward. I’ve decided this year I’m getting a husband one a using a Sharpie marker to add “future” in front of it. Haha!

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Helper bee

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@Sassyfras27:  I agree!  It’s a rough month/season. Work is not going well – I’m actually concerned I won’t have a job in February, I have 2 kids and no Christmas tree up or presents for them yet, my mom has some weird GI thing which she thinks is ominous (her tests are tomorrow). He doesn’t have the ring yet – it’s supposed to be done on the 20th but I just want him to say it’ll be by the end of the year. That’s all. So I can stop the worrying that it’ll be months before he actually proposes. I don’t want to worry about that anymore. It’s exhausting. And I can’t ask him because he would say I’m messing up the proposal. 

Good luck to you!  I’m off to buy more wine!

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Helper bee

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@SomedaymrsWDS:  A few family members of mine have also been in and out of the hospital recently with health issues. I hope your mom’s tests go well, I will keep my fingers crossed for you!

SO and I have been getting on each other’s nerves lately and I’m wonder if we are both feeling sensitive due to him purchasing the ring and us subconsciously filtering everything through the lens of “OMG, do I have to live with this forever?”. Don’t get me wrong – I love this man and have no doubt I want to spend the rest of my life with him. We have both just been turning small issues into much larger discussions than they need to be over the past week and I can’t figure out why this is happening. I also worry it will delay the proposal.. ๐Ÿ™

Post # 36
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Helper bee

Have you ever had that moment when you’ve just realized that your SO isn’t going to give you an e-ring for a big occasion such as Christmas?  Sadly, I realized this while skyping with mine tonight.  He keeps refering to my gift as something that I’m going to really love.  For me, that would be a ring.  He even asked me about metal preference a little while ago.  I’m guessing that was for another type of jewelry.  I can’t pinpoint exactly what it was that he said, but I just know now that he won’t be proposing for Christmas, and I’m sobbing as I’m typing this.  I’ll be 34 in March, and I just want to start our life together!  I don’t know how much longer I can wait.  This is excruciating!

Post # 37
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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@frabrooke:  Noooooo don’t cry! I’m so sorry that the wait is so difficult. Keep your head up! Maybe he’s been doing tons of secret planning that you don’t notice since you’re far away. It might be easier for him to hide it from you since you aren’t together all the time, and then the proposal would be that much more epic!! Stay positive and hope for the best. =)

Post # 39
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Buzzing bee

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@happyxmichelle:  So I’m still visiting my SO (leaving tomorrow ๐Ÿ™ ) but I just wanted to do a quick update bc I have some downtime while he is getting work done. Basically, we talked about it but not too in depth. He chalked it up to being very stressed and having several projects that were due last week as well as needing to write his PhD application, and told me not to take it seriously.

There was a bad/embarrassing thing that happened, but I don’t really want to post about it publicly. Basically, I made a mistake but we’ll get through it.

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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@LittleWigeon:  lame, I’m making no progress either! like you said before 3 months is a drop in the ocean, it’ll fly by! SO has to buy a tablet cos his laptop broke and he told me not to be annoyed by it as I previously mentioned I wouldn’t be too impressed if he did before the ring (this was before his laptop broke), oh well…

Post # 41
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Buzzing bee

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@SomedaymrsWDS:  I hope your mother’s tests turn out normal and that your rough month/season calms down to just good things.

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@Sassyfras27:  Hope all of your family members are okay and on their way to a full recovery!

My dad had heart surgery a week and a half ago, and he’s doing okay. He keeps having fevers and seems to have pericarditis, which is possibly concerning but not too unusual from what I have heard. My mother’s going crazy. She’s a worrier so she’d see the negatives in any case.

I think there’s definitely a time and place to discuss small issues more generally so turn them into bigger things, but at the same time, there are certainly plenty of times that a small issue is just a small issue, and if you’re feeling like y’all are picking through things and making a mountain out of a mole hill you should definitely feel free to tell your SO that.

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@shaka:  The only Christmas card I have given my SO so far (for our first Christmast) wasn’t romantic at all, but it expressed a sweet sentiment. It said, “Sometimes the very best gifts are the ones we already have.” ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 42
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Helper bee

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@happyxmichelle:  

Thanks!  I am trying to stay optimistic.  He did tell me today that I’m getting 2 gifts.  One is something that I can lounge around the house with.  The other, he won’t tell me anything about.  I’m guessing that’s the one that I’m going to love.  I’m still hopeful that he’s trying to throw me off the trail too.  I just don’t know.  

Post # 43
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Buzzing bee

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@frabrooke:  You and your SO do have a timeline, right?

Post # 44
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

is it just me or suddenly there is huge flood of proposals/engagments?

Post # 45
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Helper bee

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@PenguinLove:  YES I was just thinking the same thing… It seems like a lot more proposals showing up here. Then again I wasn’t around over the weekend so maybe there are more proposals in general over the weekends.

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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@PenguinLove:  it definitely seems like it. It’s prime proposal time right now. 

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