(Closed) Waiting chat?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 317
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@creiddylad: I understand that you have a million good reasons to believe it will happen during the holiday… but remember, men are strange (and I mean really strange) creatures… I’m sure you read many posts about other bees in the exact same situation, and there was no proposal… I myself went through that experience last week with a suprise fancy date in a fancy restaurant where I dressed all fancy and reserved a nice quiet table… just to go on a nice date and cheer me up because I had a bad week!! (Ironically, it was a bad week because I was tired of waiting lol) And we (well, I) had talk a lot about getting engaged in the last few months! So… It looks like he will propose, of course, but I would be careful, even if it is practically impossible not to think about it! Good luck, I hope he proposes, and don’t forget that this forum is a really good place to vent before talking to your SO if things don’t turn out the way you had wished for… I wish I had found this forum a lot sooner lol

Post # 319
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771 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

We had a rather funny giggly/ tipsy conversation about getting engaged in bed last night. It all started because I had an improptu dusting session as Mr Wigeon was sneezing, and he found the plain wedding-style ring we wore on holiday in Tunisia a few years back.

To cut a long story short, I was winding him up saying that he should start ‘playing the game…’ i.e. actually get on with it because I want to wear a real one! He said how do I know he hasn’t started playing the game? Cheeky moose.

I then said it would be nice to have some inkling of it, because not knowing anything drives me mad. He then said that if I knew it wouldn’t be fun making it official. I had the cheek to suggest that we were for all intents and purposes ‘unoffically engaged’ and he just smiled and hugged me. Eee.

It’s going to be a fair while yet, I imagine August at the very earliest, but it made for a good waiting day πŸ™‚

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@Corgi-cariad:  Congratulations! 

Post # 320
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2015

OMG OMG @Corgi-cariad Congratulations! πŸ˜€

Hey there lovely people! Sorry to have not posted a recent update because I have been so tied up with school and clinicals – “the perks of being a nursing student”. 

Anywho, remember how I couldn’t seem to get an exact answer from my SO about a future together? Well, last week something happened. I got sort of fed up with his answers about at least an engagement that I just couldn’t withhold the feelings anymore. He called me last Wednesday about a post that my sister made on FB about my emotional blow-up and that was when I bombarded him with my feelings. I told him that I believe that the statements: “I want to wait for financial security” and “When the time is right” are not really cutting it. Also brought up the time when a visitor came over and asked if we were planning on getting married and how my SO responded in a disgusted manner “everytime she keeps mentioning it I kinda want to run away”. Then of course, my SO said, “I didn’t mean to sound that way. But really Katie, it is true about the financial part. I want to afford the most gorgeous ring, set up the most amazing proposal, and want to see you absolutely surprised.” I, of course, was too far upset to accept this at the time stated and then blurted out, “Well how am I supposed to know for sure? That these things you are telling me are true. I have been promised to before and it never happened.” My SO then replied, “How about a promise ring?” Was the next thing he offered. “I think you would like that.” He continued to say.  I grew quiet thinking. Then we eventually got quiet and said our good nights since it was late at night. 

Then Thursday morning as I was applying make-up, my SO walked behind me and told me to stick out my hand. As I did, he dropped the diamond ring he once bought for his ex-girlfriend onto the palm of my hand and asked to see if it would fit. Of course I badgered him for handing this expensive piece of jewelry to me but I couldn’t afford to try it out. And boy did it sparkle. Then I glanced into his eyes and asked him if this was because I pushed him to do it or was it from his own heart. My SO looked down at me and smiled, “no, it is my promise and my pure joy  to see you happy.” I of course couldn’t stop smiling as he kissed my forehead. However, I keep staring at it because deep down I feel bad for having him to give me such an expensive ring that could very well be used as an engagement ring. He paid $2,300 for it!

I feel like a horrid person and on the same time wonder if this is all true. And to end this post, here is a glimpse of what I received:

 Tell me what you guys think πŸ™‚

 

Post # 321
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I’m starting to get antsy and I hate myself for it! But I keep thinking that if we’re seriously getting married this fall then we have to start planning. I need a dress! I told him that last night and he told me not to worry about it…. @&$#(FK!!! That’s how I feel. Bleh. Plus, I have a huge headache this morning, it took me twice as long to get to work (traffic, ugh) and it’s Monday. Monday after yet another weekend of not getting engaged.

 

 

 

I have to remind myself that this takes time. He only talked to his mom 3 weeks ago about the ring and with sizing I know it will take longer than that. I know I have to be patient but at the same time I’m losing it. I wish he would just say “yes I ordered a ring” or “the proposal is coming within the next 2 months”, SOMETHING just so that I know where we stand. I’m sick of this whole I’m the man I’ll surprise you bullshit. It’s a been f’ing year!!!

 

 

 

Sorry. I’m super annoyed this morning!

 

Post # 322
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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@soupir:  Yes, thanks, I know how it is with expecting it on certain occasions πŸ™‚ . . . I’m trying really hard not to think about the vacation that way, but I am definitely hoping. I don’t think I’ll be ruinously disappointed if it doesn’t happen, though, and I think I’ll definitely still enjoy it no matter what. 

  

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@orchidaloha:  Blech, that sucks. You are right though, it does take a few weeks for rings to get sized. 

 

I wish he would just hurry up already. Seemingly there are concrete steps in the right direction, going by that receipt. If I were you, at this point, I would seriously just look at the receipt to find out what he bought!

Post # 323
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

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@Creiddylad:  I kinda did…. I looked at the bottom of it to see how much he spent. Let’s just say that there isn’t much he could buy at Birks for that price! And it was wayyyy more than the watch he wants. I didn’t look at anything else because I felt bad enough about that.

Post # 324
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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@orchidaloha:  Oooh. Well, then I really don’t know what else it could have been, unless he’s trying to be a shithead and bought you a necklace or something! After all that you’ve been through, though, I am 95% certain that it is a ring.

 

Some days just suck. . . 

Post # 325
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

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@Creiddylad:  Lol I would take a necklace if it cost that much! I don’t know, I’m totally losing hope… he told me that the last time he got engaged, he had the ring for 5 months because he didn’t want to get married but he felt like he had to. Stings a lot to hear that and think about it.

Some days DO just suck! It just started snowing, and UPS tried to deliver my new phone but no one was home to sign for it so they will try again two more times before they leave it at the depot. I work right by the depot but they refuse to put it there until they have attempted delivery for three days in a row. So annoying!

Post # 326
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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@orchidaloha:  It’s SNOWING where you are? Yuck! I’m in northern New England and it’s not snowing here– you must either live in Alaska or somewhere at a rather high elevation!

 

UPS is so irritating sometimes. I’ve had issues with them too– but FedEx is even worse. They lost something my SO ordered months ago and I don’t think he’s gotten any kind of resolution to that problem yet.

 

That is a pretty awful thing for a man to say to his significant other about getting engaged. I would feel bad after hearing that to– it would be a constant worry. :/ Maybe he’s just not the marrying kind?? I hope he has changed his mind though.

Post # 327
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

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@Creiddylad:  Pretty much! I’m in Canada so it’s normal for this time of year, but it still sucks.

His ex was… “different”, and I know everyone says that because they want to be different, but I truly believe it. I actually know her and I still don’t understand why they were together. I hope he’s the marrying kind!

Post # 328
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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@orchidaloha:  I definitely hope he’s the marrying kind too!!!

 

Oh, dear, I need to get off Weddingbee. I’m supposed to be doing homework today and I have done very badly so far. Agh, this is the best/worst procrastination tool everrrrr!!!

Post # 329
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Worker bee

Hi bees, I talked with my SO and he’s on the board with getting married next summer! We don’t even have the ring picked out yet and the more I look online, the more undecided I am what I want. But I’m super excited he’s FINALLY on board. I’s about time πŸ™‚

Post # 330
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Creiddylad is absolutely right about the whole receipt thing. If it is really getting to you then relieve that stress by finding out what he bought. I mean we all know that you are going to be engaged to your beloved, so what is the big surprise? And try not to set yourself a guilt trip because who knows? Perhaps this would be proof of your chance to actually plan everything out and you would be more relaxed after this hectic wait. 

victoria86 congratulations! I am so happy for you guys. You better post pictures when you get the ring!  If you want something unique, I would recommend Verragio.  But anywho, I just know you guys will find the perfect ring. 

Currently, I am sitting all content with this promise ring on my finger. I sure hope my SO means what he says. I will wait until October of this year to show him my favorite ring so that he does not feel as if I am completely rushing him. πŸ˜› 

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