(Closed) Waiting chat?

• PenguinLove
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: June 2015

@LittleWigeon:  aha, I love that you tried that speaking to him in terms he understands aha. 27th june is mine and SO’s anniversary 🙂 though we have like no money currently so we can barely celebrate it! this week is just a waiting game to know if I’ve got these two jobs or not. 

• LittleWigeon
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: April 2015

@PenguinLove:  I went with ‘imagine you’ve spent years working on the most important experiment ever and are now just waiting on the crucial set of results?’ lol!

He doesn’t seem at all interested at the moment and I’m really trying to keep schtum as whenever it gets brought up, we just have the same old conversation anyway. Unless I have it all wrong and he’s just not letting anything go!

Exciting times about the anniversary! I’m sure by then you will have a job secured 🙂

 

• orchidaloha
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: July 2018

@LittleWigeon:  I know you feel! I keep having engagement/marriage/baby dreams lately and I wake up annoyed because of reality. It’s good that you have something to keep your mind off waiting! I tried working out pretty hardcore to take my mind off it but then I got hit on by guys at the gym and I was annoyed that I can’t say I’m married to them, then I saw a bridal party all with tank tops saying “sweating for the wedding” and I got annoyed again lol.

 

 

@PenguinLove:  How did your interview go? Yay for him mentioning saving!! That’s an awesome sign 🙂

• orchidaloha
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: July 2018

Still no ring on my finger! You’d think I would be more upset/pissed right now but I’m really not. He is still very adamant on a 2013 wedding and I told him that every day that passes we’re getting closer and closer to it not happening and he says he knows that so for once I’m trusting him on this. Birks takes 5-6 weeks to size a ring so there’s a chance that’s what the hold-up is. Maybe. I really wish he would communicate more with me on that stuff, I think we’re passed the stage of a surprise proposal and more in the stage of respecting me enough to let me know what’s in my future.

 

 

 

So far in 2014 we have around 7 weddings that we have to go to, 6 of them are family. I really don’t see us being able to squish in a 2014 wedding with all of the other ones so I really hope he gets his shit together and makes his mind up soon.

 

 

 

I have his credit card in my wallet to pay for a wedding (which I refuse to do unless we’re officially engaged!) but we can’t agree on anything so it’s pointless anyway.

 

 

 

We talked again last night and he is still on the eloping thing and I don’t know what to do…. Ideally I would love to get all dressed up, have a beautiful ceremony in Hawaii, share a bottle of champagne, then have a really nice private dinner just the two of us. Then when we get home have an informal party to celebrate our marriage. However, I know that would break my parents heart to do that. But I know that the siblings will be impossible to get out there…. Mine already have plans now and might not be able to go and I know for sure that his sister won’t be able to go. So now what?!?!

 

 

 

I don’t want to get married here in October/November because the weather is shit around then and everywhere looks ugly, plus even for a tiny wedding we will have a hard time finding a venue. But I don’t want to piss everyone off by eloping. Ugh!!! And I thought waiting was hard!

Best part in all of this? Before I met him I wanted to stay single forever.

• Jellybones
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: February 2015

@orchidaloha:  I’ve stressed myself out thinking about timelines and when and how we’d actually have the wedding and we’re not even engaged yet. First, the ring needs to be sized and he needs to give it to you. Until then, I’m sure you have some errands/ tasks/plans that need your attention. Focus on that for now. Once you’re officially engaged, then start figuring out the details for the wedding. It’s so stressful because you have all these plans and calls to make but you can’t move on them until he takes the first step. So instead of just revving your engine, letting your anxiety build up and letting your tires spin, try to refocus your attention on things you can move and take action on now. It’s exhausting worrying and stressing over things that you do not have the ability to dictate or manage at the moment. It will fall into place, i promise. I’m sure it won’t be long now but I do totally get you with wishing he could communicate things a bit better. 

 

Last night my SO said “in my mind, we’re already engaged”. Well that’s wonderful dear, but we don’t all live in your mind. 

• orchidaloha
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: July 2018

@Jellybones:  That’s what he says to me all the time too, it drives me insane!

I’ve been pretty good (with my moments) with the whole waiting thing… but it’s been a year now. May last year was when we first started talking and first started setting dates and he promised me that he was getting me a ring “asap” so I’m just tired of it now. Not impatient, not angry or upset, just tired.

• Jellybones
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: February 2015

@orchidaloha:  oof. That’s a while and I get it. glass of wine?

• orchidaloha
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: July 2018

@Jellybones:  How about a couple bottles? Lol!

• sunrise_beauty
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: July 2016

@orchidaloha:  “Best part in all of this? Before I met him I wanted to stay single forever.”

Ha! Me too, I can’t believe I really want to get married but my SO makes me want to and to him only. 

 

You have some tough decisions to make regarding the logistics of your wedding, I hope it works out!  

 

• orchidaloha
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: July 2018

@MrsWe:  Thank you! I think once I get that ring on my finger it will be lot easier. I’m really really stuck on a Hawaii wedding and he is too so I think once we’re “officially” engaged I can mention it to family and see what they say. My dream is to have them say do whatever makes you guys happy and then we could throw a party when we get home. We’ll see though.

Also, my parents are already going to Hawaii this fall. They’re going to a different island but I know they wouldn’t have an issue with island hopping for the wedding. It’ll be the siblings that are the issue.

Isn’t it weird how they do that?! When I met my guy I was the ultimate single girl… out all the time, taking care of myself, focused on my job, etc. Now look at me! He totally changed me (in a good way).

So…. I saw your other post…. YOU’RE PROPOSING?!?! Eek!! That’s so exciting!!!

• sunrise_beauty
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: July 2016

@orchidaloha:  Hawaii, OMG that would be beautiful. I’m crossing my fingers for you!

YES, I’m proposing! I’m so so excited…which I can’t even believe because like you my single life was great lol and then he came along and made my life greater. 

• orchidaloha
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: July 2018

@MrsWe:  I just can’t imagine getting married anywhere other than Hawaii. I love it there! And the thought of getting married here just doesn’t do anything for me… I cringe whenever I hear “under the Province of Alberta I pronounce you..” ugh.

I’m so excited for you!! When are you going to do it? What are you planning?

• orchidaloha
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: July 2018

Omg!!! I found a dress that I’m in LOVE with!!! What do you ladies think for a Hawaii wedding?? (I really need to get some work done)

• sunrise_beauty
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: July 2016

@orchidaloha:  

I plan to do it on our 1 year anniversary 6/29. I also plan to buy the watch on the day we met 6/9 ( I hope the store is open on Sunday, they should be.) We don’t have specific plans made yet on what we are doing but I want to propose at the end of the night preferably while we are just relaxing. So if we are watching the sunset, I will do it then, or if we are in the bed reminiscing about our year, I will do it then. I just want it to be just the two of us, no one else around…I’ll definitely share the full details of how it ends up going down lol

 

I ABSOLUTELY love that dress! Are you going to wait until you get the ring before you try on dresses? I’m only asking because I’m not sure I would have the will power not to, because you two are engaged in my head too LOL

 

• orchidaloha
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: July 2018

@MrsWe:  I love that idea! I’m so so excited for you 🙂

Yes. I refuse to try on dresses until we’re engaged… in everyone’s head we are already engaged except for mine lol