(Closed) Waiting emotional moment

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Same boat. 2017 before our anniversary is the agreed time. Thankfully STDs are still not commonplace for many here in UK but I have cried over Facebook announcements especially those dating less than a year.

Post # 3
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Busy bee

I get it! It’s hard when you’re ready! My guy has the ring and is in the process of getting it appraised and insured and he has until June 1 to propose… so happy waiting!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

i absolutely get it! i feel like i have been ready for a year now. SO FINALLY has the ring and our timeline is by April 2017 for it to be on my finger. I have had MANY shower/bathtub cries here lately. They are mostly triggered by announcements on social media. Once i get a good cry out, im usually fine for awhile until something else triggers it. prayers and hugs to you, bee. our time will come!!! let them have their moment now–you get to have yours next and they will be watching you wishing they could re-live theirs all over again! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
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Newbee

I did the same thing last week – got two in the mail on the same day (joint save the date/Christmas cards – who knew that was a thing?) and their happy faces just got to me. I am so excited for our friends, but I can’t wait for our moment. 

Post # 6
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Newbee

I feel your pain! actually dreading the holidays as I suspect there will be a few happy couples and I’m not sure we will be one of them! I cry at FB announcements all the time! It’s a strange limbo, but you are not alone! Stay strong Bee. Your time will come and it will be soooo worth the wait ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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rocktheboat :  Awww bee I get this is hard but it sounds like you are very nearly there! Chin up, it will soon be your time.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

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rocktheboat :  I am totally in the same boat. Ugh. I had a few friends get engaged throughout the past year and marriage was always something SO and I both wanted but there was no plan or timeline. Then we went to one of his cousins weddings in August and I cried several times that day because I was just so sick of us wanting to get married but not making the necessary steps towards it, it seemed like it was still years away before I would get a proposal. SO obviously saw me crying a few times that day and he would whisper to me “That’ll be us one day” or “soon” or he would just hug me and tell me to cheer up. But these are things he’s said to me a million times before so it wasn’t really a comfort to me. I think him being at the wedding with me really got him excited about making marriage a reality for the two of us because he finally put actions to his words and a month later we were at the jewellers beginning our custom ring design. I had 3 friends get engaged just this past week and I’m sitting here going crazy wondering when he’s finally going to propose to me. (I think it’s this Saturday!)

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I’m sorry bee! I know how hard it is. It can be so frustrating and the wait is excruciating! Every time we go to an event with friends or family, people are constantly asking us when we’re getting married and why we’re not engaged yet. At first I was kind of okay with it but now it’s just embarrassing and I’m tired of waiting. Of course, the FB engagements (especially this time of year) only adds to it and makes me wonder when it will happen for us!

Hang in there! At the very least, you have a timeline and know it will be next year at the latest! Good luck and keep us posted ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 11
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Worker bee

I’ve gone as far as hiding friends from my timeline as soon as I see them begin to post about being engaged. It’s hard to look at when you’re waiting for a while!

Post # 12
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Wannabee

I feel ya! A couple my SO and I were friends with just got engaged and they’ve been dating for as long as we have (almost 7 years).. needless to say facebook post after facebook post I was an emotional wreck. I love my SO dearly and we had good reasons for needing to wait initially but I can’t help but feel so sad. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee

I get it lol a friend posted her engagement on FB (they’ve only been together for a year or so vs my almost 5 year relationship) and I literally burst into tears mid sentence to my SO. I just was so shocked that they got engaged before us it just poured out lol

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

Don’t be sad, your time will come. Let it come naturally without being forced or pressure. 

Be patient. 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

You arent alone; I’ve also watched many around us get engaged and married and it was hard. We started seriously talking engagment and wedding plans back in January, and I’ve only had the ring on my finger for 5 days now. It took a massive unexpected meltdown from me a few months back to actually get a timeline for things; I was sure we had agreed on next year and he apparently had no recollection of that and I got so upset. Fortunately we are on the same page now. It sounds like you are heading in the right direction but its just a matter of timing.

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