Waiting – footsteps away from the ring!

posted 4 months ago in Waiting
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017 - Outside in Paris

Deep breath… Enjoy this time. I’m sure he has his reasons for waiting and it will be perfect. I do suggest keeping your nails clean because you never know!

Post # 4
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Honey bee

girlandherpearl : 

“but the act of having to wait for the proposal as the months go on is making me sad and a just little bit anxious.”

Why wouldn’t it, what good reason could there be that makes a man keep hidden a ring he knows his gf knows about  and is longing to have put on her finger? Particularly  having gone through the ritual of asking ‘permission’ of her father and all.  

“I recognize that I shouldn’t feel this way at all”

I don’t agree  at all, you have  every right to your  feeling . This is a  joint venture you are embarking on , not his  life that  you are being added to when he has the inclination.

I can see that  acceding to your father’s very patriarchal  notion of being asked ‘pemission’  was a politic move, but you are, nonetheless a person in your own right,  and who and when and how  you marry  is your business too  , not merely for two men to decide between them.

 

 

Post # 5
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996 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

It’s completely understandable that you feel this way. However,  hopefully he has a good reason for the wait – he knows what you want and presumably wants it too so it’ll come. Enjoy your time with him and also with friends while you aren’t busy planning a wedding!

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

He might have good reasons to be waiting – is there an anniversary or birthday coming up, or a trip planned? My FI didn’t wait for very long because he had ordered my ring from the US (we’re in Australia) and he wanted me to be able to return it if I wanted to (I didn’t!)

You are definitely entitled to your feelings though, I’d be so antsy if I were you too! Deep breaths and keep painting those nails! 🙂

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Hello lovely Bee!

I too am dating my best-friend. We’re both in our late 20s, and we met many moons ago at university, but have dating for almost two years. He is my soulmate, the person I am excited to spend the rest of my life with and I can’t wait until he asks me!

My ring is somewhere in limbo at the moment; he came home from work last week and let me know that the ring has been ordered and I’ll lose my mind over it (haha, he’s adorable); he wanted to put me in a good mood after a particilarly bad day at work. Apparently it should arrive sometime this week! We’re going away to Europe in a couple of weeks, so I am thinking he is going to do it there – I like knowing that he is going to ask me, but I love the fact that I don’t know when or where! The anticipation is killing me!!!

He’s already said he’ll ask the people I see as my parents, because that would mean a lot to me. I love this man so much, but it’s hard to breathe sometimes knowing that he is dying to ask me, and I am dying to be asked, but he’s holding out until our holiday together. And he says he doesn’t have a romantic bone in his body? Pffft.

 

Anyway, keep holding on. You’re almost there; keep painting those nails!! I’ve been moisterising my hands to keep them looking smooth and supple haha!

<3

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

Keep hanging on, but I would suggest doing something without him. Go on a weekend trip, or plan a visit to family without him. Dont do it out of spite but do it for you, to get away and clear your mind, and indicate that you are not “waiting around” on him. He will more than likely spring into action upon your return. Btw, I’m half Greek!! Yay for fellow Greeks 🙂

Post # 9
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Newbee

I was in the same boat as you.

i in fact actually suffer from anxiety and after a week of fretting and being unable to eat… I had a proper chat with my SO.

i told him that now I know he has it… it’s going to ruin all our date nights because I will expect every date to be THE date and wouldn’t be able to relax or enjoy myself. Or eat!! 

Then if it’s just a date night no matter how nice, I’d always be slightly disappointed with why he hadn’t asked.

so I know we are going out and it’s happening this Thursday night. I don’t know what we are doing- he is planning all of that! 

But I know that will be the night. 

No I won’t get this huge surprise but we have talked about marriage and live together. He gets to put his romantic touches on the night all he wants. And I get a eta lol. 

 

 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

I’m loving all these bees communicating with their SOs about their excitement and anxiety. Stuffing it down seems like a good way to develop resentment and start fights… I know it is for me. I’m trying to be clear without being pushy! I have been told any time from June to my birthday in early July. He knows I HATE surprises so he was willing to give me that much information and let me pick the kind of ring I want. We are going to the beach at the end of June…but my birthday isn’t until a week or so later. Who knows when it will be?! The surprise factor is killing me!!! I love being on here and seeing all the support! 🙂 We’ll get there!

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

 

girlandherpearl :  I’m with you. I’m really excited to see your “I’m engaged!” post coming up here soon! 🙂 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

girlandherpearl :  Yippeee! You’re getting engaged to your best friend and the love of your life soon – congratulations!! I’m in a similar situation: My BF just made the final payment on my engagement ring (which was custom made so I haven’t seen the final product, or even a design mockup for over 1.5 years!). And NOW, it’s fully paid for…and our wedding is in less than 5 months. So, you can imagine the anticipation. On some days, the waiting kills me slowly on the inside…and on other days, it’s fun and exciting. Either way, we’re getting married soon! Just enjoy the ride. Congrats again. xoxo

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