Waiting for >7 years, time to put on some pressure?

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
Post # 31
623 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

puzzledpenguin :  Congrats on getting accepted to grad school!  Should be a wonderful experience that will open a lot of doors for you.

Post # 32
1891 posts
Buzzing bee

puzzledpenguin :  I agree with all the other comments on here. I’ve been through tons of forums on here and read so many similar stories it’s crazy. Seems men are very happy to as other commenters said, settle for 80% until they up and leave the woman to go find their 100% girl. I know how much more you would be hurt if you don’t go to your dream school and then on top of that he randomly meets his 100% girl and leaves. That would feel horrible. So take control of your life and go to grad school. If I have learned 1 thing now that I’m 33 is that there are PLENTY of men out there. Every time I’ve had a breakup and thought starting over would be impossible a new guy shows up. So don’t get stuck thinking any one guy is all you can get. Go follow your dream and the guy will show up I promise! 

Post # 33
276 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

After 3 years, you two started just talking about marriage casually? 

Red flag. 

I’m sorry, Bee, but waiting 3 years to just talk about marriage is bad news, and it shows that he doesn’t want to marry you. My hubby and I talked about being married to each other before the one year mark, and started talking about marriage in general around a few months after dating, to make sure we were on the same page in terms of our goals and wants out of a relationship. We got married three weeks ago, and we have been together for almost two years.

I firmly believe that if a man doesn’t bring-up the topic of marriage at all within the first 1-2 years of dating you, he will most likely not want to marry you. 

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