- 5 years ago
My guy and I have been together for the better part of 9 years. We are best friends and are each others favorite people by far. We share a deep and profound connetion and love each other very much. We have talked about marriage at great length as it is something I want now that I said I never wanted when we met (I was 23!). He has a great job with excellent health benifits and my employer offers none, so recently he “proposed” that we go down to the courthouse and get a marriage license so that I can get on his insurance more easily. I need health coverage badly and feel I can not refuse to go through with this “paper” wedding, but the whole thing makes me very sad. We have been going to a couples counselor and I was told by the Dr. that I would have to settle for something “less conventional” if I wanted to stay with my guy and be happy. Although my SO has been coming around to the idea of a real marriage and the possibility of a child in his future he has previously been against the idea of kids (his own childhood was more than a little crazy). I need health benefits and I love him, but I shouldn’t go through with the “paper” marriage unless it means that we are engaged to be Personally, Really married right? I’m far less concerned about the contract than I am about the words that are spoken and the promises that are made. I refuse to settle for less than I want! I’m terribly conflicted…any advice??