(Closed) Waiting for a proposal…

posted 5 years ago in Proposals
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

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kris123 :  I know how you feel. SO and I have been together for 8.5 years now and had a house for about 4 years and experienced many shortcomings that prevented us from tying the knot. Throughout that time he asked at least once a year for my finger size and what ring designs I like. I got really fed up last year and told him I didn’t want to hear anymore of it unless he’s actually going to propose. Because I said that last year, I’m 99% sure it’ll happen this year. The waiting game is so agonizing it can wear you down emotionally and I don’t think some men will understand until it’s almost too late. So sorry you’re going through this.

Post # 3
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Worker bee

My first thought is maybe he is trying to throw you off track, since he knows you know there may be a ring coming soon and Christmas is such an obvious time to propose… he doesn’t want you to see it coming? I’m in a similar situation, my boyfriend and I have been talking about rings and he recently put a down payment on a ring and he’s waiting for it to finish being made, appraised, etc. I don’t know when it’s coming… but I hope it’s coming soon!! We talked about Christmas gifts recently and he hasn’t let on anything about a ring.. just suggesting other things like a new purse, etc. If it doesn;t happen on/by Christmas or New Years Eve I’ll probably be a little bummed too honestly, only because I’m so excited. I know my boyfriend and he doesn;t like to do the obvious.. could that be the case with yours too? Does he usually like to surprise you? 

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Try not to think about it and just enjoy the holidays, trust me, LOL.  I’m assuming you do actually want the proposal to be a surprise, like I did.  I knew he had the ring in the house before Christmas, so I just assumed it would happen maybe Christmas Eve?  Didn’t happen.  Christmas Day?  Didn’t happen.  New Year’s Eve?  Didn’t happen…..New Year’s DAY?  Didn’t happen…. By Valentine’s Day I was ready to implode….AND it didn’t happen.  (You’re killin’ me, Smallz).

Then February 16th it did and I was so caught off guard.  It was perfect.  But it was a little bit of torture at the time knowing it was there in the nightstand at our house.  (We bought a house together before marriage).  But he had it a few months before the proposal.  So just try to relax and not let it get the best of you….or let you get cranky during special occassions or hurt if it doesn’t happen on holidays.  It will all be worth it in the end! 

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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

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kris123 :  I dunno either, and yes, it was confusing. Or worse, misleading! He FINALLY placed the payment when we went shopping together this Black Friday, but this was after 3 or 4 other shopping trips year after year! If you say men aren’t good at surprises then maybe he’ll drop subtle clues here or there that he typically wouldn’t have said any other time in the relationship. My SO just realized I changed up my nail color the other day (I’ve changed my nail color every week since the dawn of time and he just NOW compliments them). Things like that keep my spirits up while waiting πŸ™‚

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missbuckeye16 :  Oh wow…I can’t imagine what you felt holiday after holiday while your ring say feet away from you. Even so, from your profile pic, you met your happy ending πŸ™‚

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

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bridesmaidnomore44 :  hahaha!  It all ended up perfectly!  Happily married to the love of my life!! So just try to enjoy all your moments and “the” moment will come.  Good Luck!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I am right there with you, bee. My SO has my ring locked in a safe right now, he’s had it for about a month. We have a timeline to be engaged by April 2017, but I really hope he doesnt wait until then πŸ™ I have been ready for about a year and I am getting really anxious. We both have a week off of work from Dec 26th-Jan 2nd, and it would be so perfect if he picked sometime in there to do it since we would be able to have time off and celebrate an exciting time together and with family. but like PP’s mentioned I am trying to just enjoy the holiday’s and not set myself up for disappointment. But it is so hard knowing he has the ring and he still hasn’t proposed. sometimes i let my thoughts get the best of me and I start to feel like he doesn’t want to and that I am not good enough(even though he gives me no reason to believe those things, he is so good to me.) But i am just so ready πŸ™ hang in there. our time will come soon. xx

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Painswick Church and the Falcon Hotel

He might of sent you the link to the expresso machine to throw you off the scent 

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