- 6 years ago
I have been browsing these forums for a few weeks now, and decided to say hello and introduce myself. First, I have to say how good it feels to know that there are others who are dealing with the samestruggles as my SO and I. I am beginning to realize that the ‘waiting’ period is hard on many couples (especially us women) and I think in real life a lot of people maybe aren’t comfortable venting / opening up about this. So, I am relieved in a way to know that there are others going through the same struggles.
Anyway, a little about me: my boyfriend and I have been together about 6 years now, living together for 5 of those. In many ways, it feels as though we are already married. Several years ago (a few years into our relationship) I brought up the subject of marriage and he told me he did not see the point. (We were only 20 when we began dating, so this was not a natural ‘early on’ discussion for us). As the years went by and we becmore increasingly committed to each other, I have made it clear that marriage is something that I very much want in life. This past June, I told my boyfriend that if we weren’t on the same page as far as life valies/goals, I would have no choice, as much as I enjoy being his girlfriend, to move on. After several weeks, he told me that he was as committed to me as much as he would be in marriage, but if the ring/ceremony were that important, we should do that. In other words, he told me he was going to propose.
Since then, we have looked at many engagement rings and he knows thstyle I prefer. He even knthat what store he wants to purchase from. Today I overheard him on the phone discucling costs/money.
I know it’s coming in the next few weeks/months but it’s so hard to wait planning and telling others (in real life) when I feel as though we’re almost there (but not quite!)
I just wanted to introduce myself because I think this site will be a huge resource and help for me, both waiting for a ring, and later planning a wedding!
I guess I am hoping others can give me Advice as to how to not focus so much on the proposal, I know it’s in his hands but it’s all I can think about!
(also: sorry for typos, etc. my iPad does not work well on this forum)