- 7 years ago
I’ve heard of many scenarios where the guy doesn’t want to propose until he has his dream job or something along those lines. My SO just happens to be of that mindset [he wants a better job, anyway]. I don’t know where it came from, but I randomly thought of a funny way to use that to compare how it feels for us to be waiting.
Note: I don’t mean this post to be offensive to any, nor do I mean it in a serious way. Just a fun way to look at it. As well, I know this isn’t the case for everybody.
WAITING FOR A PROPOSAL: THE MALE EQUIVALENT
Bob discovers an opening for his absolute dream job. He goes through the screening process, gets the call for an interview. Then a series of interviews. He’s passing them with flying colors, gets along freakishly well with who would be his future boss, loves everything about the company.
Future Boss absolutely loves him.
“You’re a perfect fit for our company, I can tell already… you’ll work here forever!” he says.
Bob is ecstatic. He comes home beaming. Future Boss told him they can’t wait to have him on board with the company, and that he’ll be in touch to finalize everything soon.
A few weeks go by with no word.
It’s okay, Bob thinks, they’ll be in touch tomorrow.
A month goes by. Finally, the phone rings.
“So glad I reached you! I’m sorry it’s taken so long, but don’t worry, we have big plans for you…we love you! It won’t be too much longer,” Future Boss promises.
Bob waits on pins and needles.
Then a few more weeks go by. Friends and family are starting to ask Bob about the job. Have they called yet for the job? Why do you think they haven’t called you yet? What’s going on?!
Future Boss finally calls again, weeks later.
“Remember those big plans I mentioned? They’re definitely still in the works, I promise. We actually want to get you a nice company car! What kind of car do you like?”
Bob, all excited, shares the details of his favorite car. Future Boss asks him to send him links to his favorite car, just so he has it for reference later.
More time goes by. No word.
An email gets sent from Future Boss: I promise it won’t be much longer before we have you here in the office. By the way, we want to get you a custom tailored suit as a welcome to the team. What size are you?
Clearly, Bob thinks the wheels are in motion. That job will be his any time. They’re just taking their time finalizing things, making sure everything is just right and perfect.
He continues to wait.
And then waits some more.
His ego starts to take a beating, he wonders why they haven’t called. They said they loved him, he’s a perfect fit. So why aren’t they calling? Friends and family ask more and more. It’s really starting to aggravate him. How is he supposed to know why they haven’t called? They keep saying they love him and it won’t be long.
They’re even getting him a suit. A suit! But… he gave his size months ago. How long does it take?
They love him and see him working there forever. Forever.
But they still haven’t hired him.
Alas, he will still wait for it. It’s his dream job.
His dream job is worth waiting for.
I think after the Christmas Challenge… I kinda want to use that comparison the next time my SO and I talk about getting engaged lol! I’ve heard that a lot of times guys prioritize their careers the way women prioritize marriage. Don’t want to stereotype, but I just think it’d be nice to have a way to really put ‘waiting’ into perspective for him. I think comparing it to not getting a call for his dream job would perhaps do that haha. I apologize if this was too long and/or boring.
Thanks for reading! 🙂