Waiting for a proposal.. what happens to the frustration after proposal?

• cerezza
• 2 years ago

Yeah, well if I move out, I’m not quite sure where I’d go really. I lived abroad even before moving here, and I don’t really have family anywhere. He still doesn’t want to give me a timeline as he says he wants it to be a surprise.. in the beginning of this year he said he’d propose within 3 years, but that’s a bit too long time really.. He let me show him some rings that I like last night, but I’m not quite sure if he did that just to keep me happy.. He usually hasn’t even let me go to jewelry store so that I wouldn’t get ideas or something. And he said he was thinking of buying a ring that costs about $1300 (again, I’d be happy with a ring that costs $300). It sounded like he was considering of buying a bit cheaper ring, but probably not much cheaper still. He’s been saving money since January or at least that’s what he’s told me. Anyway.. I’m going to start studying soon, and that’s going to be another year in this country, so at least I’ll have some sort of purpose to stay in this country. It really can’t take over a year to save that money, so let’s hope for the best.. 

• cerezza
• 2 years ago

Knotyet,

Yeah that’s sort of what’s making me feel a bit concerned. There must be something behind it. Something that he’s not willing to tell me. One reason could be that his female friends seem to have something against me. He’s been a bit upset that his friends have behaved the way they’ve behaved and haven’t made any effort to get to know me. His male friends are fine though. But his female friends don’t usually even acknowledge my existence, they don’t say hi to me but they seem very excited about meeting my boyfriend. I’ve been trying to get to know them, I’ve tried to arrange to meet them separately instead of as a big group, but it has always taken several months at a time to arrange anything with them. And my boyfriend has been a bit upset as he feels like they don’t really care about him and he feels like he doesn’t really know them after all. So it could be that something like this makes him want to wait and just come up with these excuses. I know that he will be a good husband and father one day, but there’s something that’s holding him back. He’s normally very honest about everything, even when it’s something that makes me feel uncomfortable. But I honestly don’t know what else I could do anymore as his female friends seem to have 0 interest in getting to know me.