- 7 years ago
Hello! I am new to this site and created this account because I am preparing to be engaged.
Yes-preparing to be engaged. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 7 years now. Of course, we have been hounded about tying the knot for over 4 now. Although not being engaged has never bothered me before- the last year it has really been bothering me as to why he hasn’t asked yet. When I asked him, he says he wants to wait until its right, when we have more money, yadda yadda. I respect that- especially if hes not ready I would not pressure him.
The last month I got serious about it. I said if you aren’t ready now, I don’t know when you will be. After a few serious talks we decided we should go ahead and start thinking about getting engaged. Of course he needs to find a ring and plan his proposal, but I have started to be crazy about it. I am willing to give up an actual proposal and seriously just agree to call ourselves engaged. He thinks I’m being impatient and wants me to wait for the proposal.
I know I am being nuts about this- I need to just wait. But especially these last few weeks I have seen a handful of our friends (who have been together less than half they time we have) start being engaged. Jealousy has consumed me and I feel like I’m going crazy- I feel our relationship isn’t justified or that he just doesn’t love me enough.
I’m really trying to get a grip on myself, but was wondering if any other ladies went through a similar ordeal. Has anyone else felt these jealous rages while waiting for a ring? Has anyone just “agreed” to an engagement versus having the surprise? Is what I’m feeling normal, and how do I get a grip on these emotions?