Post # 1
im curious about the reasoning behind deciding when to propose and what men are thinking…as my SO has the ring(still at the store I think) and I’m anxiously waiting. Why exactly are they waiting for? The proposal doesn’t have to be perfect (we’ve been together 4 years-almost four and half) do men get nervous or are they just trying to plan something perfect? I don’t think My boyfriend has any clue how he will propose, as he mentioned to my mom that “they had to plan something”. Help! I’m currently going crazy waiting!
Post # 2
Waiting here too, he’s had the ring a little over a month and I’m quite sure he’ll be proposing on my birthday at the beginning of next month!
Post # 3
Maybe I can give you some insight into some cases because I proposed to my fiance. Of course each person is different and they may have different reasons for being nervous.
I proposed to my fiance. We had already both agreed that we wanted to spend our lives together. And we even chose a time frame for the proposal (down to the week). I asked if I could propose to him and he was all for it. So going into this proposal I knew he would say yes, I knew he was ok with me proposing, and I knew he was ok with the timing. I was still soooo nervous.
I wanted to let him know how much I cared about him and I wanted the proposal to live up to anything he could have imagined. My biggest fears were that he wouldn’t like the way I proposed. But on top of that it was nerve-racking actually making that commitment. Saying that you want to get married hypothetically feels very different from actively taking the step to become engaged. You’re worried about making them happy, making a huge decision, hoping they didn’t change their mind, hoping you’re ready for this, hoping it all goes well. So much going through your mind. And on top of the big decision you’re making, you hope your proposal is good enough. It’s intimidating!
Post # 4
Some want to wait for a special date (say anniversary), some want to wait for a nice set up (like while you’re on holidays). Only reason really that my fiancé waited 2 months to propose was because we weren’t going away anywhere during that time and he just wanted to do it while away from home even though I could’ve thought of some very nice set ups and places that would’ve been romantic too if it was in our city.
It’s funny but I’ve been commenting how much I like fairy lit trees since forever, like literally every time we saw one and he even comments on them because I do it so much. Secretly I thought being proposed to under a large fairy lit tree (they are all over the places in our city) would’ve been super romantic and I think surely he knows I like them so….. But anyway, he didn’t even think of that lol… planned something else’s while we were away and it was romantic so I’m not disappointed or anything, but men have their own ideas sometimes of what it should look like and they want to plan it that way. Could be very simple and nothing elaborate. Just be patient and let them do it their way, you know it’s coming 🙂