Post # 1
My wonderful boyfriend of nearly a year (2 weeks until our anniversary) has my ring in his possession! We had shopped a month earlier, and he had searched on line as well. Three weeks ago, he took me ring shopping, we found the ring we both like, and instantly buys it! Right then and there – to my surprise. It has now been in his posession for three weeks. THREE LONG WEEKS!
In the course of these three LONG weeks, I have run through every emotion- thrilled, excited, happy, confused, upset… finally I got to the confused emotion of “why doesn’t he just propose?!?!?” After I could no longer hide my tears, I asked him if he really wanted to get married. He said yes, he is ready.
This morning, without my prompting, he says “don’t worry…you’ll have your ring soon.”
When is SOON?!?!?!
I love him very much, and I am dreadfully impatient…this is just emotional torture!!!
Post # 4
He sounds like he has something special planned. Just be a little patient its coming soon. I’d be so excited too, so use here to vent out all your excitement. The Christmas challenge would be a good idea, the more you take your mind off things and not mention it the more likely he’ll think he could surprise you.
Hang in there girlie!
Post # 5
I KNOW! “Soon” is when I’m told we’ll be engaged, but when I ask for a definition of the word, he just says “soon.” It’s driving me crazy. Booooooo on them. Dumb boys. 😛
Post # 6
Oh my gosh, you’ve gotta be sooooo excited! Yay, sounds like it will happen before you know it!
Post # 7
Oh man! Try to be patient! I know it’s hard, but he may be trying to plan something crazy special and you don’t want to ruin it by just telling him to give you the ring! Welcome to the hive! HAng out here when you think you will flip out! Why do you think my post count is so high!? lol
Post # 8
I agree with the above posts. . .hang in there and try your best to be patient! Let him surprise you and carry out his proposal plan. . .that’s the one thing most guys really take pride in when it comes to weddings/engagements, and it’s the thing they have the most control over. Try to remember that as much as you want the ring, you want him to have his moment to be proud of himself for surprising you!
Post # 9
I feel your pain my bf has had my ring for two months so I know the pain! You at least have a soon! He will do it in his own way and in his own time. I’m sure that he is planning something fab for you and wants to make sure every detail is perfect.
Post # 10
@Solome: My partner had the ring a while and managed to surprise me with it! It is hard waiting but it was definitely worth the wait when he slipped the ring into a glass of champagne! 🙂
Hang on in there! 🙂
Post # 11
@Solome: I can relate to your story. BF bought the ring mid-August (also right in front of me, so I know he has it). It can be incredibly frustrating, but also it is nice knowing that its there.
I also decided that I would get him an engagement present. He already has a watch and doesn’t wear much jewelry, so I decided it would be the new guitar he wanted. We went together so he could look and see what he wanted, and just like he did with the ring, I bought it on the spot! Its sitting in our living room with a lock on the case so he can’t play it. Though it was absolutely not my intent (most of it was that I didn’t want to have to schlep back to the guitar store), I have to admit I like that he is sometimes experiencing the impatient feeling that I have.
Post # 12
Thanks for your kind words. I think he IS planning something. It kills me because he KEEPS BRINGING IT UP! Today, I walked in on his watching “Maid of Honor” and then he looks over at me during all the wedding segments.
Post # 13
Mid-August?!?! Oh Hun, you are much more patient than I am! But I did get a good chuckle out of the guitar! I wonder if there is a support board for guys waiting for their gifts like what we have here!!!
Post # 14
Thanks, ChicChick. Yes, I must remember that this is HIS moment. I think he is trying to make sure he “gets it right.” It’s pure torture on me as he brings it up now nearly every day!!! Just today, a scene in a movie instigated his verbal pondering of if he should write a song for me or a poem for his proposal to me (btw- he is NOT an artist nor a musician!). And then he began to ask about how I want our wedding. HE brings it all up, NOT me! LoL!
Christmas Challenge! I’m in it! And I am learning patience!!! And it’s killing me!
Post # 15
Hugs!! I totally know how you feel – I am waiting for this subjective term known as “soon” also!!! Just keep typing away on here and try and keen as distracted as possible!! I bet hes got something planned 🙂
Post # 16
@Solome: I think it actually helped me to reach a comfortable place (most of the time, I still have my moments), knowing that yes, we are definitely going to have a future together. I also was pretty vocal about my ideal proposal date, which is @ the end of the year. I think I will be much less patient about still waiting. The feelings are very complicated haha. But its mean of your SO to ponder out loud in front of you 🙁