(Closed) Waiting for THE proposal

posted 6 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
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9888 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@pearllily:  over a year and half ago he told me that he wanted to marry me when I was on holiday with the girls and he was at home – he said why wait?  So, I dashed home all excited and nothing happened.  Anniversaries, Christmases and birthdays went past and no mention of a proposal.  

Ok, that day you dashed home all excited and nothing happened – did you ask him about it then?  What transpired at that time?  If he said he wanted to marry you, and asked, “Why wait?” it sounds like he proposed then … I’m a little confused.  ??

Post # 4
Member
701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You should ask him for a timeline. You’re 30. It’s not fair for him to keep you waiting around. Good luck.

Post # 7
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Newbee

Is it out of line to interpret your recent “dark period” as a result of this stress as maybe some depression issues? I think your boyfriend is doing the right thing in concntrating on getting the two of you “happy” and emotionally healthy before committing to marriage. Ultimately this day and age marriage changes very little in a relationship in terms of the day to day functioning, most couples live together and share finances long before marriage. Your “married”relationship would be the same as your current relationship, it wouldn’t suddenly make you happier – it’s not a cure.

Be grateful you have a guy who sticks with you through your dark periods and has the sense to focus on making sure you are able to shake yourself out of those down times and that you guys start communicating without these big blow ups. Those are the changes that actually matter.

Have you spoken to your doctor about the fact that you’re feeling down and anxious and you’ve been focusing on an engagement as the “fix”? They might be able to help.

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