(Closed) Waiting for the proposal when I know he has the ring

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 16
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Newbee

I am in the same situation as you ladies. I have been with my SO for four years. He bought me my ring four months ago and still has not proposed. After several fights I decided that it wasn’t getting me anywhere because he said that I was pressuring him so I have decided to give up and hope he does it soon. I just don’t understand why you would buy the ring in front of me and make me wait months. Its cruel in my opinion, which is not like my SO to be that way. 

Post # 17
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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happy4me2015:  sounds like he wants to have leverage over you to me. But don’t immediately think the worst of it. He is probably waiting for a significant day to propose to you or he is waiting for you to forget about it. Do not keep bringing it up, men like to feel like it was their idea. Just relax and have fun with him. He will propose when he is ready. 

Post # 18
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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happy4me2015:  maybe for the day you two met??? 

Post # 19
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Newbee

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indianorigami:  We were actually friends for 8 years before we started dating. Our “first date” anniversary is coming up in a few weeks, but I doubt it will be then. And I think you are right about the leverage part. 

Post # 20
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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dontbecrazysam:  just dont think about it! Distract yourself with other things. Fall deep into apprechiation with your job or career or hobbies, and just love your current relationship with your guy. It will happen when it is meant to, and when HE feels like it is the right time. The more you think about it, the more anxious/obsessed you will become. Just relax. Try to forget about it if possible.

Post # 21
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Wannabee

Hi everyone, 2 months of waiting is nothing compared to my situation, my partner and I picked out a ring just before we were going to America. Thats was 1 year, 3 months ago. I’m still waiting… 

Honestly I feel so insane about the situation, especially when he plans a day to do it and then changes his mind a few days before hand.

Post # 22
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Worker bee

I am new to this as well and am writing a good 2 years after this first post EbonyC so I’m guessing it has hasppened for you…well I’m hoping it is! I also know he has purchased the ring, I saw a conversation he was having with a friend who was supposed to receive it for him (we don’t like in the US)…and it is supposed to be delivered TODAY! I am anxious out of my mind because it will only be a matter of time before he gets it in his hands and knowing him, he will also wait for the perfect moment. He’s totally the type to do so, no matter how long it takes. In fact the funny thing is that I wouldn’t mind waiting but the pressure we are constantly getting from friends and family is seriously making me turn into a sourbee…I’m hating it! I’m hating that that is what is making me the most anxious. Marriage is extremely important to me so I would much rather wait and have a great, healthy marriage, than pressure the poor PERFECT man into something he is not 100% ready for just because some people want to put on fancy dresses and gossip about a danm wedding!

I know I’m not the only one…

Sincerely,

One annoyed bee!

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Post # 23
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Wannabee

I’m the exact same, I know he has the ring, I know my friend knows about it too, I’ve had to tell two other close friends as the excitement is getting in on me but now it’s frustration! I really thought it would happen two weeks ago on a special day out before Christmas! As we live away from our families in another country, we were visiting them so I figured he would do it whilst we were surrounded by family for the week! Unfortunately it didn’t happen, despite me all that day and then all week thinking of it! It’s been two weeks and I am going out of my mind! I’ve always had a date/year in mind and he knows this and I feel he needs to ask soon before it’s too late! I want to bring up a wedding type conversation at every moment to get him to do it! Lol but I know he is a thoughtful romantic and he will wait for a perfect moment! Hoping it’s not Valentine’s! Eek! 

Post # 24
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Found this thread as I sit here with my ‘crazy brain’

 

I dont know if he has the ring or not – but I know he has been at a jeweler in the past 2 weeks. 

 

I know the proposal will come in 2016 but the wait is killing me… will it be winter, spring, summer or fall.  I am so anxious inside – I troll these boards gain relief.  My best friend just got married last week – all her wedding talk helped – I was busy with her wedding and excitement but now after all her dust has settled I am left with anxiety and excitement.

I know logically I just need to chill – and I try not to let it consume me – but my excitment level is through the roof.

My man is a bit of a procrastinator – I just hope he isnt waiting until Dec of 2016 lol my nerves cant take it haha

No matter how long he takes – I wont pressure him daily – I know I wanna be with him.  His sister just got engaged on Valentines Day – he knew it made me ‘jealous’.  Her and her man were only together 8 months and we have been together 2.5 years.  Not to mention all my friends are either married or engaged.

I shall continue to wait… and try not to cause ripples cause that doesnt help either 😛

Post # 25
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Wannabee

My partner and I bought “the ring” together, just before Christmas of 2015. Xmas day came and went with no proposal, New Years Eve came and went, our anniversary flew by, Valentines day, my birthday, his birthday, romantic weekends away, family get-togethers, I have now been waiting for 6months knowing it is in the bottom of his wardrobe… I have given up all hope and now get cranky when people sugguest we should get engaged/married.

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Chillax ladies. Him purchasing the ring is a huge step! Keep in mind that people typically don’t purchase engagement rings unless they plan to propose. My husband bought my ring and had it in his possession for 10 months before he proposed, so almost a year! I did get antsy when our anniversary came and went, but I didn’t nag him. He ended up planning a very elaborate proposal, so I’m glad I didn’t hound him about it.

Post # 27
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Newbee

Hi bees,

Brand new bee here! I’ve been reading all of your amazing posts on this site for weeks now, drooling over your rings, etc, but I’ve been too intimidated to post until now.

Just wanted to share that my ring finally arrived today, and that I got to try it on (was shaking and laughing like a crazy person)…but then that feeling of taking it off, giving it back, and knowing that it could be months…years(?!?!) until I see it again and get to be officially engaged…awful!

Your comments and thoughts on the matter are really helpful, and I can’t wait to see how everybody’s stories progress!

 

 

Post # 28
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Newbee

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audball1985:  Hi hun! I’m in the same boat as you. I designed my ring back in February/March and got to try it on when it was finished but like you had to take it off and give it back. I’d like to say I’ve been patiently waiting but that couldn’t be farther from the case. In fact realizing he’s only had it for about three months and I’m getting antsy makes me feel a bit bad. But hey we picked it out and waiting is torture. I would see if you SO would give you a rough idea of when it might happen. I know it won’t happen till late August/September and that def helps when I get feeling impatient. Plus, I don’t get my hopes up thinking it’s going to happen just because we have a nice dinner or big gathering of friends etc. 

Post # 29
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Newbee

According to my SO, he has the ring.  I know he has been looking (or thinking about looking) since March 2015.  I have never SEEN the ring.  About 3 years back, I’d sometimes drag him to jewelry stores for us to look.  We went to about four or five different jewelry stores (including Tiffany’s where we lied about our budget so I could just try on pretty Tiffany’s rings 😛 ).

 

I’ve gotten out of him that the one he has is at a particular store, so I know which one it is.  I just wish I could see the ring!!!  He wants everything to be a complete surprise, so I have never seen it.  A few months back I was desparately searching throughout the apartment but I couldn’t find it.  I’m not sure what I would have done had I found it because I know I would have been disappointed with myself and my lack of constraint. Apparently at this time, the ring was possibly in a safety deposit box.

The suspense is killing me, though!  It’s supposed to be sometime this summer.  Ugh!

Post # 30
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Newbee

 

He finally proposed! So very excited. Be patient ladies and gents! The wait is well worth it. In LOVE with the ring he chose. 

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