- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
IS anyone else out there just waiting on the ring? I need some support because I’m super frustrated.
SO and I had a talk back in the end of January and he pretty much proposed with out the ring. I said yes of course. I was elated because I had accepted that we would never get married, he had always made it clear that it was something he didn’t believe in.
A few weeks later we went to look at rings and I fell in love with one. It’s a chocolate diamond ring and beautiful. We both loved it. He wasn’t very careful with his words and led me to beleive the ring would be coming as a Valentine’s Day/Anniversary present.
It didn’t happen then, and we talked again and I could have sworn he said it would be within the next month.
Yesterday we went out for a belated birthday and he gave me a “promise” ring since he can’t afford the real thing. It was really sweet of him, and he tried so hard to make my birtrhday special-and he really did.
But alas, I’m an idiot and I tried (key word tried) to start a rational conversation about time lines so I can just stop thinking about that damn ring already! He said he needs me to be patient and it will be between 3-6 months.
Which is fine, but part of me was just wanting to scream, ‘But you said 1 month!”. I think the big thing that bothers me is he asked me not to mention the proposal to anyone because he wants me to have the ring first.
All this waiting has me on edge. I’m hoping now that most of our special occassions are out of the way I will calm down a little bit. It’s like he planted a seed and I’m so frigging excited that I can’t let it go.
I’m trying so frigging hard, I didn’t even mention the whole thing after the ring didn’t come on our anniversary. Should I go back to keeping quiet about it and wait until month number 5?
I still consider myself to be a waiting bee, because he’s said he feels like he went about it the wrong way. He wishes he had waited to mention it until he had the money to back the talk up with the ring.
I’ve already decided the next few months I will focus on me- I want to get back into shape, and since we moved here almost 2 years ago I haven’t made many girlfriends outside of work. I’d like to work on myself so I’m not so focused on him, you know? I don’t know why the hell the whole situation makes me so crazy! I know it’s coming, and I know he’s not going anywhere but I want to start planning and telling people dammit! lol
Has anyone else been, or is in a similar situation?