Post # 1
My boyfriend keeps telling me that he wants to get engaged. I full heartedly believe him. However, he has made no efforts to go out and look at engagement rings on his own. Last weekend he suggested we go look at rings, but I don’t want to go along and pick it out. I want him to do all the work and then ask me. I do not want to be involved in the actual ring process (although I design a ton online…hahaha). I have firmly stated that I want to be engaged before moving in together and he is aware of this. I want to be engaged by the middle of August which is only a few weeks away! He doesn’t even have a ring:( What should I do?
Also today he jokingly asked where I am moving in at bc it has been made clear it is not with him. I replied that I was hoping he would get down on one knee in the next few weeks. His response was Ouch. IDK what to make of that!
Post # 3
Maybe he doesn’t know what you want and he’s scared to disappoint you!
Could you show him the type of diamond settings and ring styles you like, that way you are letting him do it, but he has an idea of what you like?
Best of luck!
Post # 4
Why won’t you go look at rings with him? Sounds like he’s nervous about picking out the ring for you and would like some help/input. You don’t have to pick out “the one” but you could go to a few stores, and pick out some different ones that you really like and then he can go back and make the final decision. It sounds like that might help move the process along. He may be nervous about going on his own since he probably knows nothing about engagement rings and isn’t sure what you want. Being nervous may be making him put off going.
Post # 5
I think that maybe he’s looking for some guidance on the ring. If you’ve been designing some online, then you know what you like, so why not point him in the right direction? Also, is money an issue? Maybe he’s saving?
Post # 6
I really think you should go with him just to look at rings. I think he has no idea what kinds of rings you like. Before we were engaged, my husband showed me a few rings (online) & I told him which ones I liked & which ones I didn’t… so he’d know my tastes. He said awhile after we were engaged that he wanted my help because I’m the one wearing it.
Its not like you pick one & say “buy me this ring!”, you just go around looking at them with him. Its a TON of pressure on him. If you really don’t want to go with him, look at them together online or email him rings you’ve designed.
Post # 7
I agree with the other girls that you should go with him. Or maybe print out one of the ones that you have designed online and give it to him.
Are you really sure that he hasn’t gone ring shopping? I was positive that my Fiance hadn’t gone ring shopping. He totally surprised me and had actually bought the ring and proposed.
Post # 8
If you’re really don’t want to go with him, show him pictures of rings that you like. Hopefully that will give him a push in the right direction! And I agree, maybe he’s just trying to surprise you. Same thing happened to me. Whenever my Fiance has a secret he’s trying to keep he always gets smart and tries to come up with quippy answers (which only gets me irritated with him but I’ve learned to live with it)
Hope it works out!
Post # 9
I think you should at least give him a few pictures of rings that you like so that he has some guidance.
Post # 10
Try being more willing about the ring process! He may need a little support from you about this, if you really want him to move more quickly.
Post # 11
I agree with the other posters. Give your guy a little credit here, he’s really trying…especially with wanting to go ring shopping with you! Most guys don’t want to go out and blindly pick out a ring without knowing what style you prefer. If you really don’t want to go, show him some of the ones you’ve been picking out online.