Post # 1
Destination Wedding and I are legally married under state law, but the federal government doesn’t recognize our marriage because of the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA). And now that SCOTUS’s decision is expected tomorrow, I’m super anxious about it. I’d love for DOMA to be struck down before our first anniversary!
Anyone else waiting?!
Post # 3
I’m not in the same boat as you, but am excited for you!! Fingers crossed!
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
Is it tomorrow? I heard it was expected Thursday. Fingers crossed regardless! I know nothing about it, really, but I read some opinions that Scalia was kind of in crybaby mode in the way he wrote something so they are predicting that it’s being struck down. Looking forward to the day that our society can join 21st century thinking, hopefully this week!
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2014 - Brazil Room
I’m a CA resident and am really hoping for a pro-gay rights ruling. One of the VPs at my work is married to his husband because he made the “window” where it was legal for him to marry. But so many others didn’t make it. Fingers crossed here as well!
Post # 7
I’m hoping for good news for all of my gay friends. *fingers crossed*
Post # 8
@LittleRiver: My wife & I are! We were legally married in Washington state but we don’t live there so our marriage is NOT recognized here in AZ (& obviously not by the federal government)… We, and soooo many other same-sex couples who love and are committed to one another, would love nothing more than to have DOMA struck down and Prop 8 overturned!
The waiting is making us crazy! I just hope/pray/wish that these supreme court justices make the *right* decision.
Post # 9
Thanks for all of the support, Bees!! Eek….just a couple more hours now.
@lovebirds08: We are lucky that marriage equality is recognized in our state. Fingers crossed for you and your wife!!
Post # 10
@LittleRiver: I’m an ally, but being engaged has made me realize how even more ridiculous it is that there are people in our country who can’t get married or whose marriages are unrecognized! It’s so unfair! Praying for you, for my friends, for everyone affected, and for the supreme court to do the right thing and institute marriage equality.
Post # 11
@LittleRiver: Straight ally here and I am having stomach pains from nerves…I hope they make the right choice.
Honestly, marriage defined as a process to have kids is BS. If they rule with that in mind, childfree couples, infertile couples and old people getting married have fake marriages.
If they don’t want to call it marriage, fine. BUT this “civil union” BS won’t stand. Either give ALL married couples the same rights, tax breaks, benefits, etc or stop treating them special. If you are only giving one group rights and denying them to the other (and using the BS excuse of “you CAN get married…to the opposite sex), that is not fairness to me.
I went to school to become a gay rights activist. My career path has floundered, but I am hoping that today’s decision will help lessen the importance of my life’s goal. COME ON EQUALITY!
Post # 12
@MrsFutureG: Can’t they just call it “Legal marriage?”
Honestly that’s what Athiest/Agostic couples have. Just because SOME people prefer to have a holy matrimony doesn’t mean that it’s the ONLY choice in the US and EVERYONE has to follow that rule!
I’m just like you.. my stomach is all knotted up 🙁
Post # 13
@Chrysoberyl: Yup. Don’t bring religion into it. You can have your church marriage, no one is stopping you. But that needs to be COMPLETELY separate from a legal marriage.
As a childfree atheist, I don’t fit into either marriage category (and have had people ask why we’d bother if God isn’t going to witness it and if I don’t plan on breeding) and yet it is important to me anyway. Just because it doesn’t fit into your narrow worldview doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be a viable thing.
Or something. Grrr.
Post # 14
I’m lucky enough to be working on this as one of my main job responsibilities. It’s meant so much to me to be able to push for everyone to have this basic right at the same time as I’ve been planning my own wedding. As a member of 2 groups that have also not been given full rights, this is very important to me.
Getting A huge coffee to be ready to grind out every right we can from these decisions. Remember that, if DOMA falls, it is a huge victory, but we’ll still need to push for every state to give marriage rights to all.
Post # 15
Good luck! Love is love, no matter who it’s between, and the more of it around the better. If two consenting adults want to celebrate their love, then that’s fantastic – and they should have the same legal standing too.
Post # 16
@Chrysoberyl: I agee. It’s stupid that something church related gives us our legal rights as couples.
I’m agnostic and SO is questioning his Catholicism. We won’t be having a church wedding. But we will still be given the same rights as those married within the church.
Why can’t everyone have that???
We all get married legally, get our rights…and those who want the church aspect can have an additional part to their ceremony.
Fingers crossed for a positive outcome today!!!