Post # 1
Hey I’m new to the site.. it popped up in my quest for anyone else in a similar situation..
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 years now. Around this time 2.5 years ago we went ring shopping and found the perfect engagement ring, it had to be sent off for re-sizing but we got the call on Christmas eve to go and collect it from the shop which we did. I was so excited!
I’d always said I wanted to pick out the ring but I wanted the engagement to be a complete surprise. For that to happen I promised myself I wouldn’t drop any hints, and try to put even having the ring out of my mind. After a year I couldn’t hold back my disappointment that he’d not yet proposed.
We sat down and talked and I asked if he had gotten cold feet? he said he hadn’t. That was a year and a half ago and i’m still waiting…
Post # 3
Can you talk to him about a timeline? I think you’ve been super patient. If my SO had the ring for that long, I would totally start to think he just didn’t want to move the relationship forward. You can speak in generalizations but I think it’s best to ask what his intentions are. Good luck!
Post # 4
Maybe he is waiting for the prefect moment! My H2B and I spoke about getting engaged about 3 months after meeting, and he asked me if I’d say yes if he asked me before we’d been together a year. I said no! Haha.
We then planned a holiday and he organised the whole thing so he could ask me at the perfect moment!
So maybe he is just waiting for the perfect moment! But granted, it is a long gap!
Post # 5
I would definitely have a serious talk with him about where he’s at and find out if there is a reason why he is waiting.
I admire your patience, I would definitely not be able to wait as long as you have!
Post # 6
Yikes! Talk about keeping you on the edge of your seat!
Hopefully “the perfect moment” is REALLY SOON!!