- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2016
Im not sure how you ladies who waited for years or decades did it. We’re coming up 2 years and I’m already imptient. We’ve talked about it, and we have a ‘goal’ date of June 2013, and even when I told him that it could take me a year to plan everything, he just shrugged it off.
Now he says I’m pressuring him, and he wants to make the desicions of this step, and the ring and the proposal and I should just back off. Which I am. I’ve decided to stop mentioning it to him for a few months.
I just want to be his wife. I don’t even care about a ring. But when I told him about that, he said that a true proposal has a ring. I kidded once that he’d better start saving, because I’d picked out a $50,000 ring (Totally joking), and he rolled his eyes at me, but he did say that he was already saving. But we share bank accounts and I know there’s no money in there, and we owe money in loans and debt and I dont see how he could be saving.
So I’m getting ready to let go of my June 2013 wedding, and stopping mentioning it to him. I’m just gonna let him do it all. Sigh. It’s just so hard, when I want to be involved in this, but he sees it as an old fashioned, man’s thing to do. He won’t even let me have a say in the ring! I trust him to pick one I like, I just would like to give him ideas so he knows more!
I dont want/need advice, I’m just rambling because the waiting is already getting to me. And I dont have any place else to write this that he doesn’t read.