- 8 years ago
So I am a new bee coming out of the shadows I have been lurking for weeks reading other waiting bee posts feel like finally I am not alone in this limbo! Mr. Cupcake and I have been dating for just under two years, we have been living together for just under a year (we moved in on our 1yr dating anniversary). He originally lived in NY while I lived in Arizona causing us to have to fly back and forth every month or so which got expensive so he moved to Arizona so we could be together. This is where I got a bit stupid I had thought his enthusiasm for our committed relationship would naturally turn into a enthusiasm for marriage. The thing is although he is more than happy to be happily committed to a serious live in girlfriend and give up his life in New York to pursue our relationship he does not seem to share my burning desire for wedding vows and I am baffled. About three months ago I had got the feeling that everything in our relationship was just right and he might possibly be surprising me with something sparkly, in fact every time we went out I held my breath thinking “is today the day?” Well obviously it has yet to come. During the last month I have finally got the strength to ask him WHEN? His response “I don’t know things are really great why fix what isn’t broken.” Since then we have had several, discussions, fights, and crying meltdowns with me asking when are you going to be ready and what exactly does ready entail with him responding that he needs more money, I need to meet his mother ( in Jamaica), and he just doesn’t feel ready. But recently I have felt a total turn around from him he has started to embrace the idea of being married. In fact he recently told me on the way home from our married friends house that he does want to marry me more than anything. We also recently went ring shopping though the idea was my suggestion and afterwards he said he would like to buy one but he needs some more money first. I really feel like a proposal isn’t as far fetched as it appeared a month ago. I am becoming increasingly confused between he seems more prepared and getting my hopes up.