Post # 1
My boyfriend and I started seriously talking about marriage about 4 or 5 months ago. He told me then that he would propose in a year or two. I was completely fine with that. I figured he was just “talking” at that point because I had been driving to his house everyday to take care of him until he could walk on his own and it gave him a lot of time to think. About a week after he was up and moving around he took me to look at engagement rings, which I thought was odd considering he wasn’t going to ask anytime soon. He’s asked me to marry him jokingly 4 times since then. The last time I called him on it asked why he does that and if he’s actually serious. He told me no, that he would not propose to me without a ring and that it would still be a couple years because he would need at least 2,000 for my ring. I asked why he had taken me ring shopping 2 months ago if it was still so far away, he brought up our original conversation and told me that he had wanted me to forget about it by the time he had actually proposed, I told him you can’t just take your girlfriend ring shopping so far in advance because she’ll never forget you took her. The next day I noticed one of the jewelry cards missing from the place he kept it while putting away some laundry. He had two cards with the information of the rings I liked. The card from the ring I liked the best was gone! So what I’m asking is why he has me going in circles about this. Was he trying to throw me off the trail or was he serious about waiting a couple years……..if he’s trying to leave me without a clue it’s working haha. Has anyone’s boyfriend done this before? And did it come sooner rather than later?
Post # 3
@pika91: Hmmm…It’s possible that he could be wanting to throw you off. It’s also possible that he was interested in buying a ring before but didn’t realize how expensive they were. Maybe the timeline he gave you was how long he thought it would be until he could save up.
Either way, you just have to talk about it. I would ask him to not jokingly propose to you. I feel like that’s misleading. You don’t have to ask when he would propose, but you two should talk about your life timeline and when you see yourselves getting married. This is the biggest decision of your life – don’t be afraid to talk about it.
Post # 3
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@Pika91, Well My boyfriend did the same thing… 5 years ago and we’re still not engaged! Apparenty he thoguht that by taking me so early on I’d forget about it by the time it happened and of course I haven’t LOL!! After a year and a half of being together and also living together he took me to look at rings. 5 months later we took our first trip together to the UK and Paris. Naturally, I thought for sure he’d propose then but no, and I was devestated! 🙁 If you can, try not to expect it… it nearly tore us apart. Every man is different, mine wants to save up the $ until he has enough for the ring. Alternativiely, some of my friends went together with their fiance’s and bought it together with a payment plan/visa from the store… every situation is different. I’d suggest you try to put it out of your mind (although I know it’s near impossible) and just live your life as usual (love him and ur relationship, focus on work, school, friends, gym whatever you need to do to keep busy)… Maybe your boyfriend says “a year or 2” to throw you off but then agian maybe he is actually being realistic? I find reading other ppls post on here helps me 😉 Good luck!! Let us know when it does happen 🙂 xo