- Wedding: March 2017 - The Tall Ship Elissa, Galveston, TX
Man, it sounds like you guys are all so *close* to a proposal!! I can’t wait to hear your proposal stories very soon!!!
Mine and Ray’s story is kinda odd… I’ll apologize now if this gets too long — I’ll try and pare it down as much as possible!
We were actually together 16 years ago, for a little bit. (We’re both 48 now.) He fascinated me and I really liked him, but I had been divorced for like 5 minutes and was struggling to raise a toddler on my own. I just couldn’t cope with anything else. I would push Ray away, and then want him back, and then push him away again, and finally he had had enough and stayed away. Who would blame him?? Life went on, and aside from random dating few and far between, I focused on raising my son and putting my awful marriage behind me. Time fades things, and years later all I could remember was the way Ray made me feel, and after meeting more guys who just didn’t measure up, Ray sorta became the “one who got away.”
Over the next 16 years life happened like it usually does. Things happened, good and bad. I grew more self-aware and self-confident. Ray married and lost his wife to cancer. We both grew in our own ways. February of last year, we were both on an online dating site (Plenty of Fish), and I came across his profile. Except, I didn’t know it was his profile! I didn’t recognize him… for some reason, he didn’t even look familiar to me. All I knew was, it was the amazing profile I had ever read, like it had been written just to me, interest- and personality-wise. So I wrote him — something I *never* did normally.
He thought I was messing with him! He didn’t believe that I didn’t know who he was. I convinced him that I wasn’t just toying with him, and he later said he was kinda curious to see if things had really changed. We went to a wine bar for our second “first date,” and by the end of the evening we both knew. We’ve been inseparable ever since. We have lived together since Halloween, and share our home with two insane cats (redundant, I know) and a very spoiled Chihuahua. 🙂 The timing is perfect now… My son is a Freshman in college, and Ray and I are getting to be teenagers all over again, lol. It helps that we’re both like 16 in our heads — I’m sure the neighbors get a big kick (not) out of our Nerf wars in the front yard, lol.
I love this man more than I even thought it was possible to love another human I didn’t give birth to. I honestly thought fairy tales happened just in movies, but that is truly how this feels. It’s the kind of happy I wish I could bottle and give to other people, because everyone deserves to feel this way. I love our life together so much.
We’ve talked about marriage since the very beginning — down to themes and colors and details. We went ring shopping a couple of months ago, and that was an awesome feeling. He wanted some help at least narrowing down my likes and dislikes. We narrowed it down to 3, with one being the strong front-runner in my eyes. Now it’s just a waiting game, and it’s killing me, lol! I have no idea when or how, and I am sooooo not a patient person, heh… But I’m so glad I found all y’all to wait with. I did get him to promise me that he wouldn’t make me wait until my birthday in October, so I guess at the most I have 5ish months to wait. Someone wake me in late September.
Anyways that’s our story! I’m loving reading everyone else’s!!