(Closed) Waiting is driving me insane. Here is my story – add yours :-)

posted 4 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
5951 posts
Bee Keeper

I don’t quite get the brother thing- if he’s close enough to his bro to want him to know about the proposal prior to doing it, wouldn’t he leave a more direct ‘hey, I have important news- get back to me asap!’ message to his bro, & wouldn’t his bro make time for a return phone call even if he’s busy (unless of course there are very extenuating circumstances, like army-bro is deployed overseas). BUT it seems like a proposal isn’t too far off for you…:) Welcome to the Bee and please keep us updated!

Post # 4
1317 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015


sunnyorchid:  tell his brother or ask his brother? either way, what does his brother have to do with the both of you? you guys cant tell him after the proposal?

Post # 5
448 posts
Helper bee

Excited for you and best wishes for the both of you! I actually just recently found out that he purchased a ring, but I haven’t seen it, and I don’t even know when he purchased it (props to him for being able to keep such a big secret from me ๐Ÿ˜ฎ I always find out everything but this time he had to tell me). I don’t get the brother thing either but can’t judge, he must have a very specific feeling/reason and you won’t know until after the whole engagement & he has time to tel you maybe :). At least you know it’s soon! My boyfriend hinted at me that he purchased it a while ago, and that i’ll be surprised when I see the date ont he reciept, so part of me wondered what in the world would take him so long to propose! He won’t even give me a timeline. But my best friend said after she got engaged her fiance confessed it was the hardest thing he’s ever had to do in this life (that’s why it took him a while), so we can’t really underestimate what they must be going through right now, we won’t know until after the engagement when we start the interrogation about what went on in their heads before the engagement haha. 

I also get what you mean about wanting to speed it up because you feel like you’re “running out of time”. I don’t want to have kids until I’m married, and because of my MD the sooner I have one the greater the chances of having a perfectly smooth pregnancy & labor, but if I wait too long I might not even be able to have one. Fingers crossed for an engagement this year though 

Post # 6
101 posts
Blushing bee

Sounds like proposal is close for you!!

My story is simply we’ve been dating for 2.5 years. I recently moved in in January. I was really hoping for a proposal by either that Christmas, New Years, Valentines Day, or my April birthday, but none of that happened ha. We have a 13 year age gap though. I’m 25 to his 38. I know he wants to have kids before he’s 40. And I don’t want to have kids until I’m married.. soooooooooo…..

He is well aware of that. So here I am waiting ha. REALLY hopeful it will come at some point this year. I’m not expecting it on anymore “big” occasions. It’s just getting hard because there’s soooo many weddings we have to go to/be in this year. Trying not to be bitter! ha.

Post # 9
104 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: Laurel Hall

sunnyorchid: That is great news! I love the Feyonce shirts ๐Ÿ™‚ I am waiting as well. I was with my Boyfriend or Best Friend when he bought the ring, although he really didn’t want me there. We’ve been dating for almost 9 years, I’m 26, he is 27. I just graduated from grad school and we were long distance, so it didn’t make much sense to be married any earlier… HOWEVER, I had a few thoughts that he would’ve proposed earlier (Christmas, Valentine’s Day, National Proposal Day, my b-day, graduation… etc). He said he didn’t want to propose on a holiday or my bday, and he didn’t want to steal my thunder at graduation. He had actually said earlier this year he had thought about putting the ring inside an Easter Egg and doing a hunt… but that didn’t happen. So naturally, I took him into a jewelry store a few weeks ago, thinking he would back out, and he didn’t. We’ve talked with many jewelers in probably 4 cities and I had just figured he bought it already, so when we talked with this one, and we were discussing prices, I was a little upset that he hadn’t bought it. We probably spent 3 hours at the store, and he decided to go through with it. I don’t know what my finished ring will look like, all I know is the stone and the setting. He said it was a huge relief getting me something he knows I’ll love, and that he finally got it. I am hoping to see it and be engaged soon (like, by July). We want to have a wedding next fall, and some of the venues I’ve looked at are filling up! I’m not looking forward to spending all this money though! lol

Post # 10
463 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017 - The Tall Ship Elissa, Galveston, TX

Man, it sounds like you guys are all so *close* to a proposal!! I can’t wait to hear your proposal stories very soon!!! 

Mine and Ray’s story is kinda odd… I’ll apologize now if this gets too long — I’ll try and pare it down as much as possible!

We were actually together 16 years ago, for a little bit. (We’re both 48 now.) He fascinated me and I really liked him, but I had been divorced for like 5 minutes and was struggling to raise a toddler on my own. I just couldn’t cope with anything else. I would push Ray away, and then want him back, and then push him away again, and finally he had had enough and stayed away. Who would blame him?? Life went on, and aside from random dating few and far between, I focused on raising my son and putting my awful marriage behind me. Time fades things, and years later all I could remember was the way Ray made me feel, and after meeting more guys who just didn’t measure up, Ray sorta became the “one who got away.”

Over the next 16 years life happened like it usually does. Things happened, good and bad. I grew more self-aware and self-confident. Ray married and lost his wife to cancer. We both grew in our own ways. February of last year, we were both on an online dating site (Plenty of Fish), and I came across his profile. Except, I didn’t know it was his profile! I didn’t recognize him… for some reason, he didn’t even look familiar to me. All I knew was, it was the amazing profile I had ever read, like it had been written just to me, interest- and personality-wise. So I wrote him — something I *never* did normally.

He thought I was messing with him! He didn’t believe that I didn’t know who he was. I convinced him that I wasn’t just toying with him, and he later said he was kinda curious to see if things had really changed. We went to a wine bar for our second “first date,” and by the end of the evening we both knew. We’ve been inseparable ever since. We have lived together since Halloween, and share our home with two insane cats (redundant, I know) and a very spoiled Chihuahua. ๐Ÿ™‚ The timing is perfect now… My son is a Freshman in college, and Ray and I are getting to be teenagers all over again, lol. It helps that we’re both like 16 in our heads — I’m sure the neighbors get a big kick (not) out of our Nerf wars in the front yard, lol. 

I love this man more than I even thought it was possible to love another human I didn’t give birth to. I honestly thought fairy tales happened just in movies, but that is truly how this feels. It’s the kind of happy I wish I could bottle and give to other people, because everyone deserves to feel this way. I love our life together so much.

We’ve talked about marriage since the very beginning — down to themes and colors and details. We went ring shopping a couple of months ago, and that was an awesome feeling.  He wanted some help at least narrowing down my likes and dislikes. We narrowed it down to 3, with one being the strong front-runner in my eyes. Now it’s just a waiting game, and it’s killing me, lol! I have no idea when or how, and I am sooooo not a patient person, heh… But I’m so glad I found all y’all to wait with.   I did get him to promise me that he wouldn’t make me wait until my birthday in October, so I guess at the most I have 5ish months to wait. Someone wake me in late September. 

Anyways that’s our story! I’m loving reading everyone else’s!!


Post # 12
448 posts
Helper bee

Such a pretty ring!!! Looks great on you! And congratulations on your engagement! ๐Ÿ™‚

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