(Closed) Waiting is killing me…(rant)

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@annasaf83:  I read it, and I’m sorry. I know the waiting gets very frustrating when you KNOW your supposed to be together and you want the rest of your life to start RIGHT NOW. He has legitament concerns so, meanwhile you have the hive to vent to. Because we understand. 



Post # 4
65 posts
Worker bee

I read it.

I understand exactly where you are coming from with this. I believe that all of us waiting bees have felt like you have, even for a moment, at some time during our respective season(s) of waiting.

However, I have to say that men in general like to make sure that their ducks are in a row before they get on one knee and ask us to marry them. They want to make sure that they can take care of themselves, and us. That includes having a job that they find to offer the stability that they are looking for.

Your guy has said what needs to happen for him to propose. Trust that it will happen soon.

In the meantime, enjoy being with him and enjoy your time as an unmarried woman. Anxiety for other reasons almost knocked me down, and I worry that you are so overly anxious over these things that you have no control over, and that can affect you negatively. I’d hate to see that happen to you.

Just remember that your guy will find the job that is right for him and he will propose.

This is all just a bump in the road. It will pass.

Post # 6
564 posts
Busy bee

@annasaf83:  Atleast yours has the ring, mine hasn’t gotten anything, or if he has then I’m not aware of it…maybe thats the point….lol, but yeah, you should be financially stable before taking on 20K of debt

Post # 7
85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

The bump in the road doesn’t make the waiting easier, either!  I’ve been unemployed thesat few months and even though it sounds awful, a big reason my SO was waiting to officially propose was because he was waiting for me to get a job.  He was financially supporting both of us on his salary and didn’t feel like we were financially ready to start planning a wedding.

But now I’m starting my third week of work and this is becoming a whirlwind–asking permission, getting the ring, asking me to check on dates for the venue and wanting to get out save the dates out within the next month.  This has all happened in one week!

So have a little faith in your SO–he wouldn’t have purchased the ring if he didn’t want it to happen.  And who knows, maybe once he gets over the bump in the road, it will all happen with lightning speed 😉

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