Post # 1
this is more of just a vent! Sorry for ranting in advance 🙂 but I need somewhere to release my frustrations so I don’t unleash on my SO! I am so sick of waiting. It’s frustrating, as many know! What makes me the most irritated is we already have a venue reserved for our wedding in June. However, SO didn’t want to formally propose until he got a job in his field. Well he got a job about a month ago, got my ring about two weeks ago, and here I sit. Waiting and waitingggg!!! And today before going to thanksgiving at his grandparents’, he made the comment “I’m glad my brother and his fiancee can talk all about their wedding because I don’t care to talk about that at all.” And I couldn’t help but be a little offended? I told him, wow you don’t wanna get married, do you? And he was like “no, I do. I just don’t wanna have everyone bugging me about it.” He lead me to believe we would be engaged this month, and I don’t think that’s going to happen. I don’t want to bring anything up to him, but I’m just getting irritated. Especially
because he’s called me his wife twice in the past week, and I would just like for that to stop until he actually works up the courage to propose! Sorry again, I know I’m being a big baby. I’m very thankful he is in my life, I just wish he wouldn’t lead me to believe it’s gonna happen if it’s not. Kind words are appreciated. 🙂
Post # 2
That would bug me too. I’m sure it’s coming soon! Be patient!
Post # 3
Yeah that would annoy me too. It would have been nice to have engagement news to share at thanksgiving.
Maybe he is trying to surprise you which is resulting in him putting it off.
Post # 4
If you’ve got a venue and a date, and you’re planning a wedding together, you’re engaged, not “waiting.” Congrats!! Enjoy your engagement and try not to let the actual proposal be a source of irritation. Keep things in perspective.
Post # 5
tm6173: I came in here too applaud you on your self-awareness. Lol!
But actually your partner is being a bit of a dick. I understand not wanting to be bugged. That was seriously the worst thing about being engaged for me. Three months of relentless, well meaning wedding nonsense.
PP is correct though – you’re already engaged if you’ve both agreed to marry. Now you just need that blasted ring on your finger! I hope he gets a move on…Congratulations in advance!
Post # 6
Thanks, all!! Appreciate ALL of the feedback!
MissKayaker: I’m pretty positive he is trying to surprise me and that’s why he is making me wait. I needed this reminder 🙂
Horseradish: I love the way you just made it clear that engagement and proposal are two separate things! Thank you!! This has put things in a better perspective for me 🙂
howdoyoudo: thank you! I’m happy to hear I’m not being irrational in my expectations! I hope he gets a move on, too 😉
Post # 7
How long have you been together?
Post # 8
tm6173: Hi there, I really wouldn’t worry! He will get there! My Fiance is an incredibly private person and hated the idea of telling everyone about our engagement. At the time I remember this REALLY made me panic! A few months down the line everything is booked in and the ‘fuss’ has died down now and he’s happy as larry and is loving the Pinterest wedding boards . Try to remember not everyone like’s all the attention an engagement brings, perhaps suggesting ditching an engagement party or doing a low key announcement will spur him on?
Post # 9
ct2015: We have been together for 5 years in February. I’m 26 and he’s 25. We have lived together for 2.5 years.
libertybelle88: the funny thing is I understand how he feels! I don’t necessarily want the attention either. I’m just anxious to have the official ring as a sign of our official commitment. 🙂
On another note, we are currently waiting on a technician to come to our house and look at a TV we have that’s broken. The technician was schedule to come between 1 and 5, and it’s now 4:15 and he’s still not here! and SO just said, “uggghhh I’m just so tired of waiting! It’s like the anticipation of waiting for something that I know is coming is just killing me and makes me so anxious!” I started laughing and said, “can I just say I know exactly how you feel? I understand.” And then he giggled as well ha maybe now he’ll get his butt moving And actually is able to understand how it’s making me feel. 😂😬