- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
The holidays are over and I had no expectation to be engaged during this time. I had a wonderful Christmas with my SO and never even thought about getting engaged/married because I was so focued on the holiday and spending time with my SO. Everything was going great…until NYE…
We went to a friend of ours party. There were a lot of married couples there. Several of them we have hung out with before and had a great time. My SO and several of the guys work together. The party started off great. I was having a great conversation with one of the married ladies, when out of no where she says…so when are yall getting married? Uggghhh…i laughed it off and replied…i could count on 10 hands how many times i have been asked that. (My SO and i have been together 4.5 years and have lived together for the past 2 years.)
The rest of the night it seemed like everyone wanted to make comments about marriage and our relationship. It absolutely made me feel awful. I am so sick of waiting, talking about it, and wondering when it is going to happen. My SO joked and said “im going to walk in and say hey you want this” as his proposal. Then in another instance he remarked “she has no clue” about when and how it is going to happen. No, I don’t and that frustrates me, even though i guess the point of a surprise proposal is to not know.
I really want to shout out…LOOK at my hand, do you see a ring? Ok, then that means I dont know when we are going to get married!! Ask HIM!!! uggghhh. I usually can handle this stuff pretty well, but i have come to my breaking point with people wanting to know about our “status” I probably made some sarcastic remarks to peoples comments that night, but it doesnt seem fair that it is ok for them to bring this topic up and Im the one that has to deal with the aftermath of stupid emotions that follow.
I expressed my feelings about this to my SO on the way home that night. I told him that i was just so tired and frustrated with all the questions. His reply was to tell them to ask him. Well, thats great. I do, but it doesnt stop the comments. I just wish i could have brought the new year in with a clear mind!! Im to the point where i dont want to go to anymore parties until after we are engaged, just to avoid questions.
Thanks for letting me vent. I just dont want to get to the point where im not excited about an upcoming engagement because of all the waiting bs. I guess its just one of those waiting cycles we go through???