(Closed) Waiting is making me feel worthless and causing me to question everything :(

posted 4 years ago in Waiting
Post # 62
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

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perpetualsecondguesser :  I am in the EXACT same boat as you. My story is on my board if you want to check it out. What I would do if I were you is vocalize a timeline to him. This effects your life too, and you should get to have a say when you want it to happen instead of just feeling strung along and only having the ball in his court and not yours. I know that he wants it to be a surprise, but I would give him a year that you want to be married by, and tell him how important it is to you. That gives him between now and that potential wedding date to figure it out. I have been on the nagging train, I definitely know how you feel. Social Media makes it even worse! I log in and at least once a day there is a new post with a smiling new fiance and a shiny new ring on her finger. It’s heart wrenching. Hang in there. 

Post # 63
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Helper bee

Wow, if waiting is making you feel worthless… your main issue is not your Fiance not proposing to you. Find some self worth, OP!

Post # 64
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Newbee

I actually didn’t get a negative vibe from your initial post at all! You moved in last September, told him you wanted to be engaged within a year, he agreed…and it hasn’t been a full year!

Especially now that you’ve had the talk, I would try to calm down and know it’s coming soon! (I should take my own advice too…lol)

Post # 65
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I think you should get properly sized, and then e-mail or text him saying, FYI, when it finally comes time for this ‘surprise’, this is my ring size. At least then he has it. I feel like he was asking for e-ring purposes (who asks about that otherwise?) but maybe felt like since you figured it out (how wouldn’t you?) it was killing the surprise and so in his head he went ‘abort! abort!’ haha.

Edit: Just went back and saw you guys had the talk, glad your proposal is coming bee!

Post # 66
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Worker bee

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perpetualsecondguesser :  I hear you…kind of similiar circumstances, and feeling the same way 🙁 what are you going to do? 

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