(Closed) Waiting is torture

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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604 posts
Busy bee

@Petunia123: It takes lots of work. I’ve finally hit the I don’t want to talk about it with him mode. I want the experience to be a good one for the both of us so I just chilled out. It also helps that I got a bit of a timeline from him, and I’m going to be super busy starting next month. He took me ring browsing almost a year ago lol the last time we went was a couple of weeks ago because we had my promise ring resized. He wanted me to try on rings so I was like sureeee lol, but yea it could be awhile so keep yourself busy Goodluck!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

Hahaha. You accept that you have zero control over it and come on the Bee to vent, of course! Trust me, we went ring shopping three years ago so I feel you, I really do. I would suggest that you follow Mr. B’s plan and try to engage in other activities to take your mind off it and to make you happy without constantly thinking about weddings/marriage/proposals. Also, one thing that keeps me from losing it is something SO said a few weeks ago. We were talking about proposals and he said, “Yeah, it’s the one tiny bit of control I have left!”

Post # 5
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604 posts
Busy bee

@artichokey: haha guys are evilllll ..Mine said the same thing

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

I was just thinking about writing a similar post last night. Sometimes I just want to look at Boyfriend or Best Friend and say “Just f*cking ask me already!” I clearly reign it in before it gets to that point but I feel like were at a stand still until he asks. I have so many ideas and questions and I just really want to get moving on it and he’s just taking his sweet time. Grr. So I’m clearly no help but I’ve got lots of sympathy. Your definately not the only one feeling the itch.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

My SO took me ring shopping a month ago and they told him it would take longer for my ring to be ready since it’s custom and I have a small ring size.  So maybe your guy can’t propose yet if the ring isn’t even ready.  That probably doesn’t help make the waiting any easier, but feel free to come talk to the Hive anytime you need to!!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Oh I feel you.  I never went ring shopping with my Fiance because I wanted the traditional surprise proposal, but I knew when he went shopping on his own (and the ass had the ring for 6 weeks before he asked me!  6 WEEKS!  Thank god I didn’t know!!) 

Anyhoo, the waiting SUCKS.  What helped me a lot was figuring out when we were going to get married while I was waiting (we both knew general ball-park, I did the rest all stealthy-like.)  I figured out that what was driving me so crazy was lack of control.  I’m a control freak and not having any was driving me insane.  So doing a little planning and setting a date in my own mind gave me back a little of the control I craved. 

Good luck to you!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Oh, and pick your “shut up date.” That’s what I dubbed for the date I picked that I’m “allowed” to say anything proposal/wedding related.  Until then I had to zip it.  Giving myself a goal to strive for was really helpful too.

Post # 10
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Helper bee

@Chipmunk: Ditto–mine said the same.  He knows I’ll do most of the wedding but he said this is “his thing”

Post # 11
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Busy bee

@yellowlinedpage: It’s awful!!! He loves watching me squirm!! I definitely entertain myself trying to piece clues and things he has told me, but then its just like c’mon!!! ugh

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Do you have any idea of timeline or are you totally guessing?

Post # 14
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Helper bee

This is what the Bee is for!! I vent here because I believe my friends might think I was crazy (I swear I’m not!).

So I had an idea for you- maybe the boy is having your ring made? Sometimes it takes a while.

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