(Closed) Waiting just got harder, advice needed.

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
3465 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@Snuggle:  I’m really sorry! ((HUGS)) I hope things get better for you! Just remember your SO loves you. You could always a adopt a child in need if you couldnt have one of your own. Or maybe a surrogate if you saved your eggs. There are always options! Try to be positive at least you can share the experience of raising your son with your SO. He will be a better father to him than his real father is and he’ll thank you for choosing such a great man to help raise him when he grows up. I’ll be praying for you!

Post # 4
3718 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

First, don’t stress. Wait until you get all of the information. I have been there and the three best pieces of advice I got were: 1) take things one step at a time, it may just be another hole punching (sorry– I don’t know the real name) surgery, your SO may be an ass if you have cancer, whatever the future is, you can’t project it now; 2) fertility treatments cost a lot, so there is a lot of research being doing and a ton of advancements. As bad as things may sound, there is so much changing and growing that there is always hope; 3) don’t make marriage plans over health reasons. Planning a wedding is stressful, focus on you health, see how it changes your relationship (and hope it doesn’t), then go from there once you are healthy.


When you find out what the news is, what the options are, and how your boyfriend reacts. You can make decisions about freezing eggs and you can always adopt. It’ll be fine, I promise. Best of luck!



Post # 5
7560 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I’m sorry you’re going through this. Remember that you don’t know anything yet. And even if it is what you’re fearing that doesn’t mean that you won’t be able to have children. There are tons of options. If your SO really loves you he will be willing to work with you. Best wishes! 

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