(Closed) Waiting ladies – How much pre-planning have you done?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: How much pre-planning have you done?
    Browsed rings/dresses/venues online but nothing further : (51 votes)
    56 %
    Made contact with vendors for availability and pricing information : (10 votes)
    11 %
    Mentally decided most everything, just waiting for the ring : (19 votes)
    21 %
    Reserved a venue, just waiting for the ring : (4 votes)
    4 %
    Some other combination. I'll explain in the comments section. : (7 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    595 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    you are doing the right thing, i am doing lots of things for my wedding , even when i have a wedding planner :), i want to pick everything myself. i am doing lots of projects and into every detail.

    Post # 4
    Member
    271 posts
    Helper bee

    I mostly daydream and browse options online.  I know that when the planning begins, he would want to be a part of all decisions so I can’t really move further.  I have though contacted a few venues because I was curious about pricing and didn’t want to bother dreaming about them if they were out of our range. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    330 posts
    Helper bee

    I’ve been browsing rings, dresses, venues, etc. since June! haha! Anything wedding related, I’m addicted to! I don’t even have a ring! Although we are going ring shopping at the end of the month EEEKKK!!! And SO has agreed to visit a possible venue on MONDAY! Wahoo! We’ve been talking marriage for some time now…..hopefully things get rolling soon! I feel bad planning because nobody really knows it going to happen yet! (I’m waiting on the ring)

    Post # 6
    Member
    7300 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We have been actively planning because venues book up quick. I don’t have a ring, but we have a venue booked for our date and I’v been writing our ceremony.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1390 posts
    Bumble bee

    Let’s see, I’m hyper-organized when it comes to our wedding so here’s what I’ve done.

     

    Venue – nailed down the Destination Wedding location/lodging, contacted to find out prices; found and recorded prices for our hometown reception venue as well.

    Budget – made up a projected budget as well as an ‘actual’ budget for both Destination Wedding ceremony and home town reception

    Invitations – Purchased DIY invitation kits/all paper, including guest book

    Dress – Picked out the dress but haven’t tried it on yet (I have some options as far as shape/skirt/neckline, etc.)

    Bridesmaid or Best Man Dresses – picked out a style that my sisters approved of years ago

    His Suit – picked out a style that will work on the beach and that he likes

    Guest List – Made up my side and most of his

    Menues – Made up three to four sample menus for both Destination Wedding and Reception

    Flowers, Decor, Hair, Shoes, etc. – Separate files for images of each on my computer. Favorite websites are bookmarked in the ‘W’ folder.

    Odds and Ends – I’ve been researching music for the ceremony and thinking about our reception play list. I’ve started investigating passages for readings. I’ve been practicing my calligraphy for the invitation addresses.

    I have our theme (eyelet and sand dollars/starfish), our venues, our date, EVERYTHING picked out. He just has to ask. He’s aware of all of this too. When we opened up the invitiation kits I looked at him and said, “Now you just have to ask!”

    Post # 8
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    604 posts
    Busy bee

    I have pretty much done everything minus venues and guestlist because those are things that are ever changing…I’m actually surprised my SO is all for pre-planning. He said he really loved the idea of me picking things out for our wedding he’s very sweet. It doesn’t hurt anyone and keeps me busy when I don’t feel like thinking about law school apps. and waiting on my LSAT score. lol

    Post # 9
    Member
    1927 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I was talking to my boss today and she is newly-engaged. She told me that gatering information while she was waiting was one of the best things that she has done because she can plan her wedding now stress free. I have looked a rings, dresses, and venues I have not contacted anyone yet. 

    @Miss Tattoo: I didn’t think venue’s in Pittsburgh would be booking for 2012 yet. Mr. Pens better get a move on it!!! Ohh yeah did you go to the Zombiefest? We did, we had a great time. Mr. Pens was Zombie Jesus and I was his Zombie catholic school girl.

    Post # 10
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    3148 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Im married now but was with my Darling Husband for 2.5 years before we got enaged and the only “re-planning” i did was “hinting” at him to propose soon.

    Am i the only bride who just sat and waited impatiently? My friend who was dating a buy for 6 years started planning her wedding, she had the ring and dress picked out, venue, colours, invites, EVERYTHING. She even had a wedding album on facebook with all her ideas. I thought she was CRAZY (no offence ladies)….she is single now…never got the ring…and i think she is pretty dang embarassed. Embarassed

    Post # 11
    Member
    604 posts
    Busy bee

    It’s one thing to pre-plan its a completely different scenario when you just go plain crazy and then on top of that bother the guy about details. No guy wants to hear even ones where weddings are actually happening about details 24hours a day. A little planning or browsing hurts no one when its done in moderation and not losing sight of what your current situation is. I would be pretty embarassed too if I told everyone on facebook or had an album of inspiration stuff that’s just wayyyyy overboard. Me having a couple of ideas or whatever with my guy knowing and not being squimish about it is cool. There certainly needs to be a balance.

    Post # 12
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    638 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    @Baileyh: Nope, you’re not the only one. I even gave the wedding mags a wide berth in the stores ’cause I didn’t want to jinx it. 😉

    Post # 13
    Member
    1390 posts
    Bumble bee

    @Baileyh: Well, posting it on Facebook without a proposal is pretty brazen and I would admit, a bit crazy. I have everything planned but SO is the only one who knows. My immediate family know we’re planning to do a Destination Wedding and I ran the dresses by my sisters ages ago because, well, they’re my sisters. Other than that, no one knows that i have it all planned and no one except my fellow bees know that my ring is on its way. We’ve been together for 4 years, talking about marriage for at least 2 so I don’t think it’s crazy to pre-plan. It’s one thing to pre-plan, it’s quite another to broadcast it to everyone before you have a groom.

     

    Post # 14
    Member
    184 posts
    Blushing bee

    I’ve looked at dresses, hairstyles, venues, invites, and rings.  I try not to decide on anything, because the bf doesn’t want to plan anything until we are officially engaged.  It is hard not to look though!  I try to save some of my favorite things because we are planning on having a short (6 month) engagement and I’d like to have a head start.  I did show him a dress that I found and really liked-and he liked it too! So thats a a start.  I don’t think it hurts just to gather ideas. 

    Post # 15
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    3148 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I admit that what she did was pretty brazen, and in hindsigh foolish, but she had picked a ring out and her ex-FH had told her had had been putting money on it on layaway (turns out that was a lie…) either way..the ring was there when she started the planning….she bought the wedding dress and FH was on board etc.

    Lets just put it this way..i FOUND TEH RECEIPT for my ring before my Darling Husband proposed and i still didnt plan anything. I guess maybe i just felt like it was taking away from teh moment when i DID ACTUALLY get engaged and can scream it from the mountain tops….whats the fun in being sneaky planning opr showing people stuff for something that ‘might” not actually happen? To me, it just seems so…….risky…..

    Post # 16
    Member
    604 posts
    Busy bee

    @Baileyh: Totally agree that’s why you shouldn’t broadcast things. But if no one knows except for that person acctually doing it then not big deal. Definitely doesn’t take away from experience. I know that when I get the ring I will be extremely excited regardless.

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