(Closed) Waiting ladies of Weddingbee

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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2893 posts
Sugar bee

I’ve never read their forums so I’m just curious: But what about it did you feel was condescending?

Post # 4
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1543 posts
Bumble bee

@claireos: It’s hard to describe, but I get what she’s talking about. I was curious what all the fuss was about, and if their not engaged yet section was as snarky as everyone said. There are several disclaimers in the n.e.y. section that say how harsh some of the knotties can be on waiting gals. Even goes on to say that some posters will out right tell those that are waiting that they shouldn’t even be a member of the knot.  It was very off-putting, to say the least. Even if the sentiment does come from a logical place.

Post # 6
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347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yeesh.  I’m glad I stumbled on weddingbee first instead of the Knot! Every one here is so supportive and as far as online communities go, it seems to be a great place.

I’m glad to be a waitingbee on this site too!  And, I’m happy to be “unofficially engaged!”Smile

Post # 7
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276 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Wow, I’m not a waiting bee, but  i felt the need to comment. Is that really a sticky on the knott? That’s super bitchy.

Post # 8
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1365 posts
Bumble bee

That makes it sound as if the distinction between engaged and n.e.y. posters gives the engaged/married posters (it’s so weird to say posters, not bees) a level of enlightenment above the waiting gals. Silly waiting gals don’t know anything, whereas those with official engagements can understand that there is no such thing as being unofficially engaged. Just wow. Makes me happy to have found this place and so proud of all of you bees! We waiting bees do know what we’re doing and why we’re on a wedding forum.

Post # 9
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335 posts
Helper bee

why should it matter to the knot who does and doesn’t pre-plan? and how can they say that it’s only up to you and your SO to determine your relationship status and then tell you all the one’s you aren’t allowed to have? very condecending in tone. :/

Post # 10
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320 posts
Helper bee

Wow, that whole thing sounded so bitchy and elitist, and not welcoming AT ALL.  Is there a membership fee and special Kool-Aid you have to drink there, too?

Weddingbee is 10x better! 🙂

Post # 11
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1925 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Whoaaaa that’s crazy!  I was a lurking waiting bee for about 6 months, and I loved looking at these boards!  It was SO helpful to know that I wasn’t alone in the crazy agony of waiting!!  Thanks bees!

Post # 12
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100 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I was actually on The Knot before finding the Bee forums. We had a three year engagement due to the birth of our son and some financial emergencies. What ultimately pushed me away from there was how judgemental the majority of the posters were. If you didn’t have a huge budget, and you weren’t doing the whole overdone traditional route you were treated like a two year old caught with their hand in the cookie jar.  As a serious DIY “offbeat” bride i was always feeling guilty about my wedding.  I think half of those women felt that I SHOULD feel that way. Weddingbee has been an amazing community and I’m so glad that a place this accepting exists. 

Post # 13
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197 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Oh wow, what snobs!! The point of forums is to make a sense of community–not ostrasize those who aren’t engaged yet! What is it, high school?

 

Glad that I literally stumbled upon this before the knot, you ladies rock! : )

Post # 14
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1542 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Wow, that’s so wrong. I agree with VickyAurea it’s like they’re allowing the engaged posters (I swear I typed Bees) to be snarky and bitchy with the waiting ones. I can totally read “we know you’re not engaged but we allow you to be here just cause we want posters but we’re allowed to judge your situation” between those lines.

Post # 15
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684 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Yikes! :/ that’s awful… Sheesh! That sticky is like a disclaimer to be super snarky. At least they “warn you first.”

Post # 16
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772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Dude, the knot’s “already engaged ladies” are just mad that the “engaged to be engaged” ladies are stealing their thunder.  The knot seems so “it’s all about ME.”

/snark

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