Post # 32
To be honest, the waiting board is one of my fav parts of the Bee! I love coming in to work on Monday and seeing all the new engagement posts, I love the lists, and I love the camaraderie. It was awesome to be able to share in the excitement/suspense when I was waiting, and I still love sharing in everyone’s joy or being supportive when waiting is *not* going as planned.
Post # 33
i totally agree with everyone! I get emails daily from theKnot and their wedding shop. Well, after finding that forum and the attitude of theKnot, I will not be ordering anything or using their site in the future. 🙂
Post # 34
Ughh, I checked out the snarky brides section too, not very pleasant :/
Post # 35
Umm…what’s the point of having a ‘not yet engaged’ section if they essentially imply that one shouldn’t bother to post UNLESS she is engaged? Or rather, it sounds like those who are planning on getting engaged soon are allowed to participate, just so long as they don’t dare to think that they are as significant as those are already engaged or married.
I admit, sometimes I even feel out of place here, amongst ladies who have a ring picked out, have talked about wedding dates with their SOs and so on, but I’ve never felt unwelcome. This has been such a valuable resource for me, and has at least empowered me to talk about my expectations of the relationship.
And did I read wrong, or did someone actually say that they’ve ridiculed the Bee for having a no snark policy? I’d like to see what they think of Offbeat Bride- OBB has successfully fostered a really positive environment to discuss all sorts of wedding-related stuff.
Post # 36
@Berkana: Oh wait, does Offbeat Bride have a forum section? I thought it was just a blog.
Post # 37
VickyAurea, it’s a blog, but all of the posts are heavily commented on and discussed. They have a strict no-snark policy, but encourage constructive dialogue and critcism, and it works. They also have a tribe.
Post # 38
@Berkana: Oooh, I was going to check out the UK group they have but The Tribe tells me it is for those “who are actively planning their weddings”. I feel too shy to go and wave at them now.
Post # 39
@Berkana: Oh I love Offbeat Bride – especially their philosophisizing features. I’ve already bookmarked those to give me a sense of perspective when the time comes. And yes, there are threads on The Knot about how the no personal attacks and snarkiness commenting policy means we’re all sunshine and rainbows. I think some people confuse being a bitch with being honest. The main differences between the two are tact and consideration. Lol with the strict policy at OBB, not to mention the application process, I don’t think they would get in – or even if they did, they wouldn’t last long.
@VickyAurea: Yeah it’s for people who are actively planning their wedding three years down the track. They also have an extensive application that needs to be filled out which is then reviewed before being accepted.
Post # 40
I LOOOVE their philosophizing section! I just filled out the reader survey, and said that there should be more…I believe that not long ago, there was an article that pertained to waiting for an engagement. I remember the gigantic form thing you have to fill out, though. I decided not to do it, because I felt a little *too* silly about it, like I was actually planning a wedding. I’m still trying to get my SO to even talk about it.
Also, I can’t stand that attitude, when people see rules enforcing common decency as somehow forcing them to give up a vital part of their character, or impinging on their right to free speech. It’s not that hard to not be a jerk about something, unless you really have nothing to say in the first place. No, I don’t think they would last long on a forum that values level-headed, fair discourse.
Post # 41
LOL The Knot.
I was snooping there the other day and I found that they make fun of WB just like we talk about them. I was trying to find reviews on a vendor I wanted to use, but got sidetracked by the forums. They say that here we ‘butt kiss’ and ‘are all sunshine and rainbows’ and ‘give bad advice’. I don’t think that is true in the slightest. The advice I got from here, especially as a waiting bee, was very helpful, friendly, and filled with hope. I didn’t need to go to a forum where I would be pulled apart and participate in a competition to see who could be the snarkiest/rudest.
If I would have found their n.y.e forum before this one, I would have been a mess! I love that on WB, unless you are purposely trying to start trouble, 99% of new users are accepted with open arms. I am thankful that we don’t have some sort of ‘snark initiation’ in order to be part of the group.