(Closed) Waiting List for the single gals?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Should Single Girls be allowed to be added to the waiting bee list or should they have their own?
    If a Single Bee wants to be added.....big deal. : (15 votes)
    10 %
    They should have their own list : (22 votes)
    14 %
    They should just wait until then have an SO, then be added to the Waiting Bee list. : (114 votes)
    73 %
    Other (Please Explain) : (6 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 32
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    4886 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @wolfpackforever:  Honestly?  Yeah I’d get annoyed.  I get annoyed when my friends who are in relationships but not engaged talk endlessly about their planning.  But it’s not because I think it’s pathetic that they’re interested in being married, it’s because once their time comes and they actually do plan a wedding, I can GUARANTEE it’ll be wildly different than what they thought before… and it’s a colossal waste of time for both the friend fake planning it, AND for me to hear it when we could’ve been talking about something so much better.

     

    I’d also like to comment that it is obviously very possible to become so completely wedding-obsessed that it’s hard to see anything but wedding.  I personally think your time is better spent living your life, enjoying every minute, because this is far too short of a time to spend fake doing ANYTHING.  Live your life for the here and now.  Every minute.  You never know what could happen, and wouldn’t you rather be hanging out with friends, skydiving, traveling, reading a book… than daydreaming?

    Post # 33
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    276 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    What’s with all the snarkyness? She’s technicly “Waiting” to be engaged. There are plenty of ladies who date ONLY with the intention of marriage. Many religous girls I know practice Courtship, or dating with the intention of seeing if marriage is right for them. it’s pretty common.

     

    fyi, my spelling sucks because I lost my glasses. Sorry

    Post # 34
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    1595 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    If you *really* want to get married, you need to find a man first (or even a woman)..you cannot marry yourself–it just doesn’t make any sense. Why are you so infatuated with the idea of marriage? A wedding is 5 hours…a marriage is a lifetime…is it the marriage that you want or the wedding? If you want the marriage you need to find someone to connect with and unless you are marrying David Tutera chances are quite slim you will connect with someone on an emotional level if you are so caught up in the “idea” of a wedding. Maybe you can become a wedding planner? But if you personally want to get married, you need to shift focus.

    Post # 35
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    276 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @Dell79:  

    She didn’t come here to have mud slung at her. People heal in different ways and who are you to judge.

     

    You ladies are sounding like the ones on the KNot’s Not ENgaged Yet boards. If any of you wne t overe there and even mumbled the word “timeline”, something that is common here,  you’d get horrible treatment. It’s not fun
     

    Let her be excited and wait for prince charming. it’s not like she’s  ordering a husband online

    Post # 37
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    1595 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @Luckygal5571:  Nobody is “slinging mud” at anybody. She asked for opinions and this is my opinion (along with 72% of other people)…you are trying to sugar coat the situation and it is only going to harm her in the long run. The truth of the matter is that very few men want to be with a woman who chats about marriage on the first date. It scares them away and constantly thinking/dreaming about marriage is not going to make the situation better if anything it will just make it worse. If you want to get married you have to put yourself out there, step out of your comfort zone and meet people to build a connection with someone. That is how it works! She doesn’t have to take my advice and you can say I am being harsh but if she really wants to get married there are steps you take beforehand. There is a reason wedding sites are for people who are already at that stage in life and dating sights are for people who are single looking to get to the next stage.

    Post # 38
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    4886 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @wolfpackforever:  Again, not trying to be snarky, Im just trying to understand.  So for the women who join the Single Bee Waiting List, what happens next?  Do they get taken off that list and moved to the Waiting Bee list when they enter a relationship?

    Post # 40
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    276 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @Dell79:  Last I checked this wasn;t the thread where she  was talking about her marriage commitment ceremoney. And as she’s looking for Mr. Right I’m guessing that’s on the back burner. And It depends on the person you’re interested in, Look up the difference  on dating vs. courtship. People still do courtship in 2012. It exsists,and the people that practice it aren’t crazy.

     

    it’s not for everyone, but there you go

    Post # 41
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    1595 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @Luckygal5571:  Even if courtship was something that she wanted (which she neer mentioned btw), I highly doubt the time spent on a wedding site will lead her to Mr.Right.  Honestly, I really don’t care….just stating the truth and I stand by everything that I said, at the end of the day I’m not the single one so I really could care less

    Post # 42
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    3218 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I agree that there are already way too many boards on here– the waiting boards themselves (for people who are actually in relationships) are already enough of a stretch for me.

    Post # 43
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    2649 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    @wolfpackforever:  im gonna be honest, I don’t get it.  But I also don’t think that you should be attacked for your suggestions/ feelings either.  I’m all for the singles board I think it would be a good spot for the single bees to find each other and support each other. Hell, I could even get in to reading ” date recaps”. ( I’m getting sappy in my old age. Lol) 

    The list idea, I don’t get it. To me In My Humble Opinion it reminds me of the list my frinds and j made in middle school to cross off who was first/ last to get a so.  Mabey I’m not understanding the concept butthat’s what it sounds like.

    As for people going in to relationships to get married, they exist. I refused to casually date people. It works for friends of mine but not me. I dated looking for long term. I always have, but I knew what I wanted ( sans a really really bad experience) and I was lik. If your gonna be my boyfriend were  gonna be exclusive. 

     

    Post # 45
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    2224 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I feel like that it probably isn’t healthy to obsess 24/7 if you’re single… But I don’t see how single ladies having a waiting for a relationship list hurts anyone. I think we’re all grown up and can make our own choices but it’s wrong to impose our beliefs on other people. If the single ladies wanna hang I have no problem with that. If they want a list for fun, why not have one? 

    I do have to agree that weddings and marriage should not be the forefront of your mind if you’re single.. But if you want to enjoy party planning and rings and general squee-ing, who cares? I don’t think it hurts anyone.

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