Post # 1
I never thought I would be writing this post, as I thought that I would never get married again. I had an abusive marriage and a horrible divorce. Fast forward two years later and I met the most fantastic wonderful man.
We both know we want to be together forever. We have talked about marriage, looked at rings, he has asked me to send him links of rings I want. I know it doesn’t sound like a problem. We have been dating for 1&1/2 years and are soulmates. We also have a LDR. I live on the east coast and he lives in Europe. We see each other about once a month, he comes here or I go there. I also have a son who adores him. We are going to be moving to Europe, by the end of the school year, but need to be married first.
We just returned from Disney last week. Disney holds a special place in our hearts. We met on a Disney message board, told each other we loved each other for the first time at Disney, are planning to get married there. So of course, I figured he would have proposed there.
He didn’t and I am very upset about it. I have told him that and he understands, but I am still upset about it. i know that bees wait much longer than I have waited, but I am 40 and he is 41. We have talked about trying to have a baby after we marry. Also if we want to be together in Europe by June, we are probably shooting for spring, what is he waiting for.
I just needed some support and have decided that I am just going to shut it up about it, I think that is what you ladies call it. I am not not going to mention it. He will be coming to the states in November. So I am not saying a word until then.
Thanks for listening. Do anyone have an advice or words of wisdom?
Post # 3
Aww I’m sorry your dissapointed; it’s so hard! My advice is not to push him too much. You don’t want him to propose simply because he wants you to stop pestreing him.
Post # 4
@MissHobbit: Exactly why I am not saying one single word about marriage, rings,or weddings to him. He probably won’t know what hit him. It will be hard, but am I strong. Thanks you.
Post # 5
What a great story of how y’all met! I completely understand the waiting blues. The shut up pact will work, I’m sure. And it will make you empowered instead of waiting for his next move. Lots of luck!
Post # 6
@MLBS29: I thought my fiance was going to propose (after almost 5 years of dating, 2 years of me bugging him about getting married) on our cruise to Mexico/Belize/Roatan/Key West, a few months after that on a mountain top by a beautiful secluded lake (I don’t hike, hate it, but we were with all his family and in our favorite vacation place (NH)), on my birthday, and on our anniversarry.
The only thing I didn’t think of was Christmas for some reason (I thought it was cliche but I’ll never tell him!) Before he proposed, way back in August I was telling him about Kleinfelds sale and he said I should go get a dress if it was a great price! If I had done that and then had to wait until Christmas I would have gone nuts.
The best advice I have is take deep breathes and believe he has a plan. My FH promised me in Sept. that he had a plan and a date in mind because I was having a very hard time and really thinking he was jerking me around and not ready- After that it got a little easier (though I did have a meltdown a week before he proposed)