- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2017
Hi Bees! 🙂 I’m super new here so please let me know if I’m posting something wrong/in the wrong place.
My BF and I have been dating for nearly 4 years and we talk and plan for our marriage all the time. We are planning to get married in May 2017 and I couldn’t be more excited for us to start our married lives together! We designed a ring together a few months back and I’m pretty certain he’s received it by now. I know he has told his mom that he’s planning to propose to me and he /might/ have talked to my family last week, but I’m not certain about the latter. I certainly hope so though!
Anyway- he’s constantly talking about our plans and it’s really exciting- but there’s a part of me that is /really/ struggling because we aren’t engaged yet. He is passionate about us having the big formal wedding, but our timeline for that is getting more and more scrunched. Our marriage will involve us both moving to a new city and me getting a new job, so it’s getting harder for me to adjust to these changes coming up without the official engagement. I’m so grateful and happy for the blessings that I’m receiving, but the longer I wait the harder it gets and the stronger my misplaced anger becomes. Logically I recognize that I’m so fortunate to have a boyfriend that is careful with his proposal, but the emotional side of me doesn’t understand how he would want to wait any moment longer- I would elope with him right now. I’ve begun to get my feelings hurt and I know that’s unhealthy, so I’m doing everything I can to distract myself and remember that he loves me.
I’d love to hear any advice you all have regarding this waiting stage before the engagement. Also I’d love to hear your own stories! I’ve read a couple of forums and I’m so happy for you all 🙂 Or if you have any advice/stories regarding marriage in general I’d absolutely love to hear it. Have a wonderful night!