(Closed) Waiting on Vacation… Update and curious what you bees think?

posted 4 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
592 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Oh gosh, what a waiting game!

I know it might be way too far off and an extra while of waiting in limbo, but maybe he’s waiting until your friend’s wedding is over, so you guys can have the spotlight? If this is the case, I wonder if he’s thought about all the planning for this destination wedding he’d like to have? I feel like guys sometimes overlook the HUGE process planning a wedding can be and underestimate how much time it takes.
9 months of having the ring is *plenty* of time to do up a surprise proposal for when you “least expect it”, and it seems unnecessary to wait any longer.

I’m sorry you didn’t get engaged on your holiday. What a bummer! I hope it didn’t put a damper on the trip.

If it were me, I would probably make a funny-yet-uncomfortable comment, the next time he brings up a wedding, about how long the ring has been in the house and how he might want to go check and make sure it hasn’t burned its way though the drawer (or where ever it is). I would definitely ask sooner, rather than later. Or actually say what you think about his timeline for a wedding “Well, if we’re planning a 2017 wedding, and want to be engaged for a year, we’d better get a move on.”
I think your timeline to ask is good… but at the same time, this is the man you love and want to spend your life with. You should be able to talk to him about anything. 9 months with a ring in the house and no proposal is excessive, and it would drive me up the wall if I were you. And if he isn’t ready, then fine, but he should be able to tell you that. 

I hope you get some answers, or a proposal soon!

Post # 4
592 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I think the notification might have been a youtube thing? Laina is the girl who did a Justin Bieber cover with that Boyfriend song. She just posted a video called “My Wedding Song” but it’s a Q&A video with a whole bunch of questions from twitter. I googled, and watched until I found the wedding song question, haha. I guess there’s a game where you go in to itunes, hit shuffle, and the next song that plays is supposed to be your wedding song.
I don’t know if this makes things better or worse?

Well, your friend’s wedding will definitely get him talking marriage and what he wants for your wedding, and hopefully a “when”. So at least the door is wide open to talk about it at that point. I really hope he proposes before then because that wait is getting pretty ridiculous!

I like the joke approach myself. It works for us, and while the subject is easier to breach with a laugh, it can go to “but seriously, the ring has been up there for 9 months, what’s going on?” and he can say “The plan’s in motion, just be patient a little while longer, it’ll be worth it” or, if there is something else like “I’m just not ready yet, but I’m glad that the ring is here so that the second I am ready, I can ask you to marry me”.

I hope you guys can have a positive discussion about it, and soon! The fact that he’s mentally planning for a wedding date is a good sign, I think.

Post # 5
301 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

The big clue here is that he said it’ll happen when you least expect it… Big vacation? Expected. I would bet it will not be on your trip. Sorry! It’s coming though. 😀

Post # 6
837 posts
Busy bee

Next time he brings it up, revert back to the ‘I’d rather not talk about it until we’re engaged’ line. And stick to it. Hopefully he gets the hint. Good luck Bee! I was a waiting Bee too, I know how it feels.

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