- 4 years ago
- Wedding: December 2017 - Friendship Plaza
Brief recap of my spiel:
We’ve had the ring since the summer, when we picked it out together (I wanted a lot of input into it!). Waited and wondered about a proposal, until October when he said he had it covered, not to pressure him, to let him do his thing, he wanted to have control over it and time to do what he wanted. I have never brought it up again, and since then he hasn’t brought up wedding ideas – he had been bringing up questions of what I wanted and what we could do for a while (no alarm that the conversation stopped, there really just was no more to discuss lol).
He’s also said it would come when I least expect it, which at this point is both all the time and none of the time. I mean, what does that mean, when I come out of the shower?
Anyway, we are on a lovely vacation, and I really hoped it would be now. I was very ‘good’ and didn’t peek in the ring bag to see if the box was there when we left. But, I broke down a couple days into our trip and searched his suitcase: no ring box.
So tonight at dinner, he brings up ‘our wedding’, which immediately makes me ‘arroooo’ like a dog. Now, I had promised myself to say something along the lines of ‘I really don’t want to talk about plans until we’re engaged,’ but I didn’t get a chance too. Partially because I was hanging onto him talking about it and by the time I got my wits about me food was coming. OH THANKS, FOOD.
So here’s the thing, he brought up again how we want to have a destination wedding, and that the best time would be when we have the girls (his daughters), and how next Spring 2017 would be a good time. Why yes, it would. Why, yes, a proposal a year in advance would make sense to MAKE PLAAAAAANS.
The last part was in my head. Because, food.
So does this mean a proposal is nigh? But why didn’t he bring the ring? I know he’s said he feels like we should have a time in mind when we are engaged, so maybe this was his way of .. cementing that prior? I had in mind to bring up a timeline (not an ultimatum, just a ‘hey, what the eff is going on’) around the beginning of March, because that would be (a) 9 months of having the ring (b) after holidays, new years, valentines, leap year. (c) it’s a few weeks before I’m a bridesmaid in a friend’s wedding. He feels very sensitive about not proposing around other people’s weddings (as he should).
Now, he is a major planner (as am I) and a very practical, realistic guy, so he’s gotta know that planning a Destination Wedding in close to a year should start… soon.
When the eff is this going to happen, bees? Yes, I’m asking you to look into your crystal balls! Should I even say anything at some point? But when?