(Closed) Waiting out the rest of this year? Help!

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
368 posts
Helper bee

I totally understand. Hopefully it happens for you! Our anniversary is on Christmas Eve. Last year my boyfriend told me he wanted to be engaged by next year. I work as a landscaper, and I got laid off a month earlier than normal. My boyfriend got a better job right before I got laid off. He has a lapse in his paychecks now. He was unemployed for most of the year, which was really tough.

On top of that the other couple that was living with us left, and broke the lease. They are absolutely crazy, and would start fights about cleaning (we cleaned all the time). So we have double the bills now. Our savings has been drained, and I know we are beyond broke. I know there is no way it is happening. It’s killing me, this year has been so bad for us. I have to try and keep my composure in front of my family on Christmas Eve. I know we don’t have the money, but I want it to happen so bad. He told me a few months back that the ring was almost paid off. He could propose with a tin foil ring, and I would be glad to say yes. I just feels like something good needs to happen this year.

Sorry for venting, but things are so beyond crappy right now.

Post # 4
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3587 posts
Sugar bee

I don’t know. I just don’t focus on it, which is hard.

My anniversary is today and I’m not expecting it, but I don’t know our plans either. We were originally going to go to some cabins, but I told him not to since it would cost a lot. Now I don’t know anything. If we do nothing I am going to be beyond pissed off.

 At least I get off today for 2 weeks.

Post # 6
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2000 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Oh myyy gosh, I felt exactly the same way!! We had talked about it over & over & over, and he kept leading me on!! Rather than your man, mine would actually LET me know when he was going to do it…like dropping hints here & there about “something came in to the jewelry store this weekend”, or “you’re going to LOVE this weekend.” It drove me INSANE. Honestly, I don’t know how I waited. But I knew that I didn’t even want to begin the wedding planning process until I was officially engaged. I know it’s mind boggling & it drive you CRAZY!! I actually got mad a few times! ๐Ÿ™‚ But one night, when I honestly just gave up on the anticipation, he took me out to a beautiful dinner with some friends & I ordered a cheesecake & it was beautifully decorated on the dessert! MMM…so I guess my problem was solved by just not even expecting it anymore, and I just let it happen when it happened, even though I KNEW it was going to be soon…just like you do! Best of luck to you girl, when you get engaged you’ll HAVE to post pictures of this ring!!!

Post # 7
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118 posts
Blushing bee

I am in the same crunch time….I have been going to the gym twice a day and staying very busy….that’s all I can do!  Hang in there!

Post # 9
Member
362 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m in the same boat and it’s TOUGH!  I know my ring is sitting at the jewelry store waiting for Fiance to go pay off the last bit and pick it up (it’s been ready since Wednesday!!) and I have been bouncing off the walls with anticipation since MONDAY.  I try not to be looking for hints or ask about it or get disappointed when it doesn’t happen but it’s hard.

My latest strategy is to try to distract myself as much as possible.  I’ve been watching my Buffy the Vampire Slayer DVDs and that seems to do a pretty good job as does listening to non-romantic music and beating the hell out of my punching bag ๐Ÿ˜›

Post # 10
Hostess
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I know it is so hard waiting!  It sounds like since he has a ring it will come soon!  We are here if you need to vent and I can’t wait for you!

Post # 11
Member
2408 posts
Buzzing bee

i think what helps in my case is that we’re long distance so i don’t really feel pressured around this time. we’d rather be together first in the same state before we get engaged so that’s keeping me sane. now once we move together? all bets are off.

but the month isn’t over yet! so keep your chin up girl. and remember to enjoy the holidays. it’s a great time whether you get engaged or not Smile

Post # 13
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815 posts
Busy bee

Hey BlissBound–this weekend is our date-aversary too!  Just hang in there and try to focus on the present, I know that’s easier said than done.  You know he’s buying you a ring soon, he just has to finish paying for it, which is probably why nothing was planned for this weekend.  And there are only a few weeks left but you never know!  I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you!

Post # 14
Member
368 posts
Helper bee

@ Blissbound: Thanks for the encouragement. I’m really glad to start the new year fresh. I’m so thankful for everything I do have that I can take for granted like food, a car, a place to live, my boyfriend for everything he does, and my great family who has been so supportive. Oh, and you are definitely not crazy. There is a whole group of us impatiently waiting along with you. Wink

Post # 15
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10218 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

@lost: M was laid off on Tuesday so believe me when I saw we are definitely >>here<< .  I started my business earlier this year and that’s basically all that I do and last month was really tough… Let’s just say I know there won’t be a Christmas proposal and I’m okay with that ๐Ÿ˜€ .. at least i don’t get to drive myself crazy waiting anymore, you know?!

@blissbound: maybe he’s trying to throw you off? or perhaps he’ll surprise you with a ring more magnificent than you originally imagined…

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