(Closed) Waiting Patiently…on the outside :)

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I think while it is possible that it could be coming, you need to try and put the thought out of your head because you dont want to ruin the weekend! Just enjoy your time together and not worry about a proposal.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I agree with CupcakeLove.

You have to somehow appreciate the moment for what it is and see what you have. Maybe it will help if you start imagining in your head what life would be like if he wasn’t in your picture. Think of all the single women out there that are in their mid 30’s that are going out on dates to meet “the one”. Think of that dissapointment. Think about them not having children even though they really desire to but can’t find someone to stand by them.

The truth is, if you start realizing what you have is wonderful, you will find it easier to not expect and look into the future so much. Live in the moment. Enjoy every day as it comes. Feel every touch and listen to every heartbeat. Enjoy these moments before engagement. Cuz once you get engaged, then you will plan, then you will get married and then what ?

We as women are funny that way, we always look up to the future and alway want to take the next step… well stop and look at who is on this step with you right now and embrace until the time comes when he on his own will ask you to be his wife πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Lulume:  Very well stated. I think we get ahead of ourselves and forget that this moment is just as important and wonderful as the moments that will come.

I know my time will come when I have to make sure I don’t have expectations too. Waiting is hard for me right now, but we don’t have any big plans until August so I don’t exactly know what it’s like. I know I’ll struggle with it though. So I think what I’ll probably end up doing is focusing on the adventure we’re going to have that day. I wouldn’t be able to hide my disappointment and that would really hurt him, not to mention ruin the day.

So on August 8th, when we hike a 14er, I’m going to focus on the challenge it presents along with the wonderful company my SO will provide. I guess my best “advice” would be to relax and go with the flow!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Any distance would be hard! Hang in there though, it sounds like he’s on board and everything will work out. I think it’s particularly difficult with the distance but also because you’re now living alone. That’s a really big transition and I could see how you would feel lonely at night. I’m sorry and I hope he proposes soon and you can move on to the next stage!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Wow, I lived that far and drove through 5 cities for my fiance over the course of 2 years before he proposed. We’ve known each other for almost 4 years though and worked together/kind of dated before. I understand how it feels to wait! Its so hard when you love somebody and you are ready for the commitment! Especially with a daughter! I would tell you to hang in there. Its really when you feel like giving up that it happens sometimes. It happened for me about 2 months after our anniversary and after the holidays. He was also getting his finances in order. (Rings are not cheap!!) I was anxious about it for awhile but only bc I loved him so. Prayer is what really helped me. I had to really let go and let God do His will. I put my faith in Him, talked to Him about it and let go of everything. Thats when everything happened and it worked out. This is the best thing to do (to let go) and the best advice. Otherwise, you’ll drive yourself crazy or ruin his surprise!! Guys always want to propose on their own terms without being pushed! You have a great, long life ahead of you! If you love him, hes worth the wait!! GOOD LUCK and God bless  πŸ™‚

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Keep us posted! And good luck!

Post # 14
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1994 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@Folklaur:  Congratulations! Please post some ring porn soon! 

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