(Closed) WAITING SO LONG TO PROPOSE ….. it's lost it's excitement

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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LLMMCC:  I feel like we have the same life… almost 3 years, been waiting for half of that time, and we’ve been living together almost the entire relationship, looking for rings for over a year, and I know he has the ring (since May). NO surprise here what so ever. None. But I am excited and anticipating the proposal because knowing my SO, it’ll be well thought out and he will be totally sweet. He’s been acting amazingly sweet and loving lately, aka showing all the signs that it’s about to happen (from what I’ve researched LOL) so the surprise element will be totally gone but I know the excitement and feeling of “this is really real and happening” will officially hit me when he proposes and of course because it’s HIM. I don’t know exactly how he will do it so maybe there will be just a tad element of surprise in there

Post # 17
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: The Ocean in Jamaica

With my fiancee for 9 years until he proposed. We are now 40 and 39 years old! It has been an amazing 9 years of learning, travelling the world. passion and connecting on such a deep level and becoming best friends.   Yes it was a long wait but with every moment of waiting, when he proposed it was the most special night of our lives on a snow covered beach in the middle of winter with the icey lake and moon light as our back drop!  I wouldn’t have wanted it any other way!   We will continue to travel the world creating a lifetime of memories and hopefully with a little one in tow.  Often too many people rush the romance and growing friendship which often leads to it ending in divorce.  A good thing takes time to marinate and grow, that way no mistake is made.  

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

We had been dating for about 3.5 years when we got engaged, and had plenty of conversations about getting engaged. I knew the time frame the proposal would happen in; he’d spoken to my dad, and we had family rings resized. It wasn’t as exciting as it would have been if it had been a complete surprise, and if he’d proposed before we’d had a lot of time to think about it and talk about it. Sorry 🙁 Probably not what you want to hear… But realistically, there were lots of advantages to talking about it together before moving forward. And it was still a very special moment, even if I wouldn’t define it as exciting. 

Post # 19
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Busy bee

Nope, it was still special and exciting. We were together just shy of 5 years before he proposed. 

Post # 20
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Newbee

 

.elle:  hahahaha thats so funny that you actually sent that to him :O lol, nice one!!! Would love to know, what was his response???

Post # 21
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Helper bee

I sometimes think the same and get like (in my head) – ‘FFS the time for romamtic proposals was 3years ago let’s just do it’ – but i know i don’t really feel like that. As soon as it happens all that pain and trauma of waiting will be over and forgotton… And it will be just perfect! (i hope so anyway)

Post # 22
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Busy bee

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MadameX:  I agree with you. I waited 8.5 years… and by that time I kind of knew what was coming and honestly, while it was special, it wasn’t as exciting as it would have been earlier on in the relationship… it’s hard to describe really. It was still gorgeous etc, but I think it would have been much more exciting a little earlier. 

Post # 23
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Wannabee

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LLMMCC:  we have been together for more than 5 years, talking about marriage for 4 years and i have been waiting for more than a year (because we are finished with college a year ago)… i started to feel for every date(!) as the date he is going to propose but he does not now i feel like it won’t be surprising and i’m not even sure i will be happy when he propose (i know he is the one for me but) he knows i’m waiting for him to propose. so i cannot be sure if he proposed because he thinks i am the one for him or he does that just because i’m waiting

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