(Closed) Waiting- Sometimes It Helps To…

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
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217 posts
Helper bee

Haha, I’ve noticed that too about old posts! I love seeing it. I’m also waiting so probably don’t have much advice to offer, I just try to keep busy as I can to distract myself. 

Post # 3
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1021 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Another waiter here. Been with SO for 4 and a half yrs now. I try to keep busy but I usually end up thinking about it anyway! lol sorry not much help.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

It helps me to look at my old text with SO or think about conversations were he said he definitely wants to marry me amd to let him do this. Its coming soon. I know it. Also the same with the past bee posts

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I had to wait for 8 months! I knew he got the ring in jan 2014 and didnt propose until August!! I literally drove myself insane, and I took alot of it out on him! I completely know how hard it is try not to think about it, but seriously try to distract yourself. Get into a really good book, or take up a hobby (other than waiting lol). 

I know it sucks! and honestly when Fiance proposed I was more relieved than anything, I was so excited and in shock that it actually happened. I was relieved that I didnt have to torture myself anymore. 

Looking back I really wish I could have distracted myself with something.. I completely tore my self up emotionally. I kept digging and snooping to see if I could find more receipts or  anything.. I did it to myself and wish I figured out a way to be content until it happend. Ugh it was the worst!!

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Too funny. I do the exact same thing. Its like fastforwarding to the end of the movie. It does make me feel better when even the gloomiest posts from the waiting period make it to the wedding and then even off to trying to have children.

I’ve tried EVERYTHING to keep myself busy: gym, fitness classes from pilates to spin, photography class, learned how to freakin needlepoint…and honestly, the one “hobby” that does tend to regularly keep me preoccupied and not thinking about waiting is…Netflix! Yes, I’m putting Netflix down as a hobby.

Post # 9
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Busy bee

I (and SO) keep reminding myself why we decided to wait, since we still have some career and money goals to accomplish before we go there. But I think that every other day you wait is one more day closer to being married, and you’ll never get this time back. If you guys talk a lot about being together in general I think it helps – we will talk about our dream house together or our travel vacation list. Or more boring stuff like how much our taxes will go down and how we will max our our retirement accounts this year and how fun that will be when we’re old lol 🙂

Post # 10
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639 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I find that actually planning the wedding helps making waiting that much easier for me. I might be alone on this one but while I have been waiting, it is over a year because of varying personal reasons, I plan. He and I have pretty much talked about our wedding in detail so we have a theme, a color scheme for that theme, he knows he will get his friends who are professional Djs and photographers to do our wedding, we have agreed on wedding party members and we know he is comign with me to try on dresses. Needless to say we have discussed tons including the month that we would like to get married and potentially whether or not we are interested in a Thursday wedding but definitely know not a Saturday.

I’m sure I have way more planned than he would ever expect. I have a google docs spreadsheet with ALL that I need from our discussions and my own research. But I’m sure he knows I have a lot planned as I am obsessed with weddings, not just ours ALL weddings lol. 

Post # 12
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Newbee

The posts here are so cute when like a week before their proposal, someone is freaking out saying ‘I’m done! I’m NEVER getting married!’

Then ta-da! Engaged hehe

I’ve been officially waiting over a year now (but together 8) and it used to really get under my skin if I thought too much about it – I’ve had many reassurances from partner and resolved to Shut it up now and that’s really helped, just by saying I’m not going to talk about it, it doesn’t enter my thoughts as much, and if it does I don’t entertain those thoughts for long. Other than that reading here helps, and letting it go –  having fun, imagining that all of this will not matter a year from now – here’s hoping for all of us 😉 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

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DancinDarlin:  so funny. I was in school for my Masters wwhen I was completely planning our wedding. I figured I’d use the timeconstructively so that when he did propose I wouldn’t have AS much to do because I had a great deal already done. I must say that was a couple years ago I haven’t changed our theme or anything but I expand on what our vision is to tighten it and to try and keep the budget down as we both have big families.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

MelBee1: Hahahaha. Love your post and agree with it! Just sitting here watching Netflix and hoping to get engaged… 🙂

One day the ‘waiters’ turn into the success stories! Can’t wait for that to happen to each of us.

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