- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2016
I’ve never really been one to post much like this online but it actually helps so here I go 🙂
So long story short we’ve known were going to get married for a long time (been together 4.5 yrs but im still pretty young(22 23 in a few months) SO is almost 4 years older than me (26) but he also has a huge debt after buying a business. I got out of school made good money talked about getting married for A Year started actual ring shopping a year after that found a ring I love was also ridiculously expensive at the time was fine for me but logically doesn’t make sense with debt that big and also no house (he refuses to pay rent but I was at the time. he was at home,mostly stayed with me though) so it was buy a ring and live with parents and then what, or buy a house and be on our own for good so that’s what we did bought a house in dec. SO got rid of the business as it was holding us back of what we wanted to do(get married, which we would be if it wasn’t for the business-was too competitive and wrong time had it for about 3 years) so he got a new job and is now making good steady money, we finally had money figured out with all the payments ( this was over 3 months there were a bunch of roadblocks and unexpected payments in there but don’t want to make this longer than it is!) looking at the bills I’m like there’s no way I want to spend 9,000 on the ring I wanted that can pay for this this and this there’s got to be something else. then I discovered moissanite, convinced SO on it (this was when he first got the job and we had double the money coming in) so I found the ring and left sticky notes all over of THE ring so I’ve been “actively waiting” again after the year of secretly still hoping. Because we have joint banking I know how much we have and technically could afford a ring but also like to keep the “emergency fund” and he has the excuse of I still need to pay of the credit cards(Which I can’t see, but know is true). Anyways I’ll end our crazy confusing story there and get to the good stuff.
I came home from work had a bad day , been having a rough couple weeks loosing my very close grandparents, another friend got engaged (90% of our close friends are engaged or married so I’m getting bitter) and he mentioned what he needs to fix on his truck he just bought(one of unexpected payments, we agreed next big purchase is my ring) so I was slumped on the couch he asks what’s wrong already knowing the answer I start crying of all emotions built up not just being a brat lol, we talk about everything engagement specifically and he was like come here and showed me a secret bank account with almost exactly the amount of my ring cost and said you really don’t think I don’t want this as much as you? EEEEEEK he’s secretly been saving! So this fuels my suspicion even more that he’s going to do it on our vacation in Portugal to visit his family in about 5 weeks! our timeline was this year hes a jokster and says the end of the year (to throw me off cause he really wants it to be a surprise) but I said summer, now knowing we’re only a couple hundred away from the amount I can’t help but think soon and it’s killing me( going on the bee everyday doesn’t help either lol!) also now feel like a brat for making him feel bad and show me the money and ruin more of the surprise factor but he truly feels bad for having to wait for so long cause he wishes we were already married( never doubted him just the debts!)
so that was way longer than I expected (trust me that is the short version) I guess I just needed to let it out and didn’t want to in person cause I probably sound crazy and internet is anonymous 😉 any bees who stuck around to read all that feel free to share your story, experience it helps letting it all out knowing your not alone:)