(Closed) Waiting til marriage….

posted 6 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
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7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

You can do this! The reward is immense. I know June can’t come fast enough!!!

Just try to avoid getting yourselves into situations that trigger the desire for hanky panky. Spend time doing a devotional at quiet times together or focus your attention on something neutral.

Best of luck πŸ˜‰

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I am right there with you! We have had sex in the past, but we simply tried justifying it by saying, we are spending the rest of our lives together, we live together so its like we are married, ect. But we talked about it, and prayed and we chose that its best to wait… not for ourselves but to honor God and live by his word. We want to start our marriage right, and for it to praise God. We do live together – so i understand how hard it is… Stick with it. Make sure to have a couples devotion every night before bed, this will help to keep your head clear and on the things that are pleasing to God.

 

Post # 5
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542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It’s wonderful to hear from other ladies who are waiting πŸ™‚ The most important thing to do is pray together. And be patient with each other, it’s hard to wait… agree on a “line” that you will not cross when it comes to romantic situations.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

We are both mormon (LDS) and virgins, and waiting until the wedding. We’ve never done more than make out. It’s kind of difficult, I mean, of course we both want it, but we are used to stopping things before they go too far and it isn’t that hard for us. It definitely got harder when we got engaged. But we only have 3 months and 17 days until the wedding, we don’t live together (again, mormon haha) and despite our best efforts we are almost never alone, so I think we’ll make it just fine.

Hang in there! I am living proof it is more than possible, and definitely, definitely worth it in the end.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

We are doing the same. We have been together for 5 years now and during the first 3 years we had sex but then decided to wait until marriage. We are going on 2 years now without it and it will be 3 years when we are married. I know exactly what you mean when you say it’s hard. Extremely hard! lol But just have faith and try to avoid situations that may lead to it. Living separately isn’t a bad idea, that’s what me and my Fiance decided to do. Not only so we wouldn’t have sex, but mostly because we wanted the whole “waiting until you’re married” deal.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m a virgin, my fiance is not (he was previously married). We have never had sex and I made that VERY clear from the beginning. I feel bad for him, but he says the waiting has been good for him too. He started going to church with me and totally understands. I’m sure it’s harder for him since he’s had sex before, but I have no problem waiting… why cheat myself at this point?

Don’t forget the finish line… it will be that much sweeter!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

I am not trying to threadjack or troll here, I am just genuinely curious. For the women who have had sex with their current partner already . . . why are you stopping before the wedding? Like, what do you gain from it? Is it just for the excitement again on the wedding night? Or do you really believing having sex before was a mistake and you’re trying to do right from here on out?

I’m the kind of person who diets and then eats one M&M and says fuck it, I’m having a donut now too. So it’s hard for me to understand the mentality. Can someone please help me understand?

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

For me, it was because I knew that it was dishonoring to God and I was done with trying to please my flesh and please the Lord…it got to be too much of a weight and I wanted to do the right thing again

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

This thread has been incredibly inspirational to me in keeping the walk. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

Oh how I understand your situation ! I was celibate for 6 years before meeting SO.. Honoring God is such an important goal !! Congratulations on making it this far ! Keep up the great work !! Just like PP said, it is soooo worth it ! 

Here’s a little trick for you… I did this and found it works great πŸ™‚ I didnt wax or shave ! Not feeling sexy really helps when the temptation gets really hard! πŸ™‚

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

@thanlon_88:  Good job !! πŸ™‚ You are a strong woman ! Lean on God πŸ™‚ 

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