Post # 1
So, last night, the Fiance and I were talking about not having sex until our wedding night. I mean, we have before. We’ve been living together for a year and a half for crying out loud! But, I want to stop for a while that way it’s still somewhat special on our wedding night. He thinks it’s ridiculous. I told him people do it all the time. Help me prove him wrong!
What are you ladies doing? Keeping it up or waiting till the big night?
Post # 3
My Fiance would have the same reaction. There is no way he would go for it! But I’m thinking that, realistically, with all of the pre-wedding hubbub going on, we probably won’t have sex for around 2 weeks before the wedding.
Post # 4
We’re keeping it up. With money woes and job stress and wedding planning stress we don’t want to add sexual tension onto the top of that mix! But it’s not an unknown thing to do by any means.
Post # 5
My Fiance would never go for it and I don’t blame him. Intimacy and sex are important things in our relationship and I think it’s unecessary to stop before the wedding.
Post # 6
I think we’ll take a couple nights off before the wedding, just because we’ll be busy. I don’t think the fiance would go for much more than that, LOL. He wanted to spend the night before the wedding with me, but I nixed that idea, explaining that the dress and all the wedding junk would be in my hotel room (he doesn’t want to see anything til I walk down the aisle)…oh and I’m sharing the room with my sister…so she wouldn’t appreciate it either ha ha ha. I actually understand where you’re coming from though, wanting to make things “special,” I get it!!
Post # 7
I’m on an immigration waiting period right now (funny how the gouvernment regulates your sex life!!). If was with Fiance right now waiting would be the last thing on my mind. I don’t have any advice for you if you want to convince him. The only thing special if you wait is how short it’s going to be on your wedding night.
Post # 8
While reading this post I was thinking the exact same thing the The immagrant bride stated. If I made my guy wait a couple of months it would probably be pretty quick! Also I don’t know if he’d be more focused on finally having sex or that this is the first time we are having sex as a married couple. I would want my husband to focus more on the fact that it is the first time we will be making love as a married couple then the fact that he hasn’t had any in a while.
Post # 9
Well, to provide a different opinion than some expressed here (though I do see their point – especially about how it won’t last long on the wedding night…hadn’t thought of that!) we ARE going to wait for a period beforehand. We haven’t decided how long it’ll be (so obv. haven’t started waiting yet) but yeah, we want to be full of anticipation of the special night, and this works for us!
Post # 10
I think that we’ll prob take a month or two off… but not like, a year.
Post # 11
I don’t think we’ll take any time off except maybe a night or two before the wedding just because they’ll be busy and stressful.
Maybe Too Much Information but… in my experience, the more we have sex the better it is. If we take a break, I tend to stop wanting it as much.
Post # 12
We won’t be taking time off – we’ve had breaks before due to being apart for a few weeks, and for us personally, it doesn’t make it any better. But all couples are different, so if it’s worked for you before, I could see why it’s a good idea to take a break.
Post # 13
We inadvertently took about 2 weeks off before the wedding; we were just super busy. I’m not sure waiting made it any more special. Honestly, we were so tired and worn out by our wedding night, that we could’ve waited until the next day on the honeymoon and it wouldn’t have made any difference to me. The honeymoon was awesome, though. 😉
Post # 14
We won’t wait.
But I do know a couple that waited 3 years. Once she got engaged she told him that was it, they are waiting until they are married. And he went with it. I personally don’t think I would be able to wait that long, nevermind FI/BF!!
Post # 15
This is of course just a matter of personal beliefs and desires, but I think if you’re already living together, you’ve already made that committment to be physically intimate. I think “taking time off” would probably add stress to your relationship, not make wedding night sex better. Honestly, building up to having good sex routinely is much more important and special than on one night! But plus, it’s your wedding!!–it will be special no matter what.
Post # 16
Honestly we’ll be in an LDR for two months before our wedding (possibly) and even if we aren’t… we’re going to be too tired and busy to get it on anyways. So we’re doing a “break” that isn’t really scheduled, but probably just will happen.